What if your structure isn’t the problem — it’s the way you’re using it? In this episode, Haley breaks down the difference between control and containment, why discipline isn't magic, and how to rebuild routines that actually support your nervous system. If you’ve ever tried to force a “perfect” routine and crashed hard when life got messy, this one’s for you. Practical, honest, and a little bit spicy — it’s time to stop self-punishing in the name of productivity.