This episode examines self-pity as comfortable victimhood - the conversion of feeling-wronged from a reaction into a position, maintained by the specific emotional quality of the sweetness of grievance. The “if only” grammar, the singing of the song, the comfort of the victim position as relief from self-examination, and the spectrum from transient state to consolidated identity are all traced. Nicoll’s designation of self-pity as the most terrible inner state is examined closely. The gratitude inversion is given as the practice: a directional counter-operation, not suppression, beginning tonight.

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