Every single time that I hear such a statement from a client, I address it. Immediately. First of all, true male submission is a choice, not a fetish. Second of all, a woman cannot take control of a man. She presents herself as Dominant and a man chooses to offer his submission. To put the onus on the woman is nothing more than a sexual game that men play. A man who actively submits doesn’t tell the woman what to do, when and where to do it, and how to do it. He submits. Period.