Men need to learn how to actively love their woman as she learns to find her truth and stand in it. For, she cannot learn to stand in her kinky truth until she gains confidence and learns a couple of things about herself as a person. This is where you, as the guy, come in. Actively engage with her with love, sincerity, and genuine interest. Do these things outside of the bedroom. She will gain confidence in herself, in you, and in the relationship. Then she will have emotional space to explore kink.