in this episode i talk about confidence, where a lack of confidence stems from and how to gain confidence. stories of doubting abilities, struggling with imposter syndrome and persistent fears of failure, embarrassment or not meeting unrealistic expectations. the belief that confidence is an innate trait some possess and others forever lack. the truth is confidence cultivation is a skill developed through accepting life's imperfections, learning from mistakes and practicing self-compassion.

insecurities are learned, not inherent. they come from past hurts, comparing oneself to an unrealistic standard or messages implying flaws/shortcomings could be overcome by sheer willpower - if only confidence was built. doubt is a protectiveness of ego, not an unchangeable personal truth. facing its underlying roots through journaling, therapy or supportive conversations helps discover confidence foundations already present.

tools for gaining confidence include reframing mistakes as learning; evaluating ideas of perfection and fixed traits; challenging anxious thoughts; embracing vulnerability as courage source, not weakness; acting 'as if' self-assurance was natural state; praising growth over end goals; finding purpose through quiet passion pursuits. constant reassurance seeking maintains insecurity cycle.

cultivation begins by accepting 'good enough' and speaking kindly of yourself as you would trusted friend.

growth in confidence allows giving/receiving praise with gratitude rather than excuses. asking questions and taking risks to expand horizons in low-pressure ways. making progress over achieving ultimate aim. every small step builds upon itself until 'fake it til you make it' becomes truth. More about the willow project https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjTi7LHzd_9AhXsJkQIHfelD90QFnoECBwQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnn.com%2F2023%2F03%2F14%2Fpolitics%2Fwillow-project-oil-alaska-explained-climate%2Findex.html&usg=AOvVaw0JElBtFzuJ82CeRz0cIFkw The Ted talked that was mentioned https://youtu.be/b5ZESpOAolU

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