Your home should be your sanctuary, and that includes your significant other after you both have gone about your day, and now it's time to come together.  When anyone has to walk lightly around someone, it breaks down intimacy because you never know what will set them off.  If you are in this situation, I pray that you seek counseling for yourself even if he won't go with you.  Counseling is a beautiful thing when two people want to help the marriage or relationship, however; it is not a necessity and one should never decline a support system nor counsel which will ultimately assist in your self-worth.  Love is blind and you want to keep your mind wide open to strengthen YOU at all times.