Holidays are the best memories outside of a new addition to families, whether it's a baby or even an animal.  When you have unresolved issues within your relationship or marriage though, it can surface at the worst times.  Unfortunately, I have countless unpleasant memories of various holidays in being with my ex spouse.  Although I don't allow them to affect me now.  I seem to never forget those moments that could have been amazing. Communication is everything in a marriage.  Don't ruin precious memories because you are lacking in this area.  Get professional help if needed, or an otherwise great holiday memory may not be the only thing you lose eventually.  Happy Holidays Everyone!