Jay discusses her love and determination to honour her late husband Gary’s wishes.

Lance Corporal Gary Bingley was killed at the battle of Goose Green, aged 24.

Because Gary wishes were for his body to be cremated and there was no crematorium, Jay became part of a small number of families who put pressure on the government for the bodies of their loved ones to be repatriated.

Jay has a blog dedicated to capturing the stories of the men who fought in the Falklands War at

In 2017 she found solace visiting the Falkland Islands to walk in the footsteps of her late husband and retrace his journey.

She’s been a body builder, a grief counsellor and is now an author and public speaker.