Parents Using Human Design Podcast

S1/E10 - Deconditioning as Parents: Undefined Centers, Big Feelings + Nervous System Care


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Back with another episode of Parents Using Human Design, Bryn and Courtney turn the lens inward to explore deconditioning as parents—how old patterns, family dynamics, and everyday stress shape the way we show up with our kids. Using Human Design as a compassionate framework, we unpack what’s yours, what you may be amplifying, and how to create more ease at home without trying to be the “perfect” parent.

We talk about why both undefined and defined centers can hold conditioning, how to compare your chart with your child’s (and even your parents’) for context and compassion, and why “trauma” is less about the event and more about what happens after—through the lens of nervous system regulation and the “window of tolerance.”

🎧 In this episode, we cover:

  • What deconditioning really means for parents (and why HD makes it practical, not perfect)
  • Defined vs. undefined centers you’ll feel at home: Emotional, Sacral, Root, Throat
  • Emotional Center dynamics: how defined vs. undefined plays out in families + scripts to communicate about big feelings
  • The difference between empathy and emotional amplification (why some kids name your feelings before you do)
  • Root pressure at home: on-time culture, urgency energy, and giving grace
  • Sacral truths: “lazy days,” capacity, and yes/no energy—without rewards, bribes, or battles
  • Real-life examples: hot vs. cold digestion at the dinner table, touch cognition and mess, comparing charts across generations
  • A gentler approach to healing: baby steps, one center at a time, and weaving regulation into the day
  • ✨ Whether you’re brand new to Human Design or deep into your experiment, this conversation grounds the theory in real family life—so you can parent from presence, permission, and your actual energy.

    💫 What is Human Design?

    A synthesis of ancient systems (astrology, the I Ching, the chakra system) and modern science (genetics, quantum physics). Your bodygraph reveals how your energy operates—gold for understanding your child’s behavior, motivation, and needs.

    Grab your free Human Design chart: brynbrown.com/freechart

    🙌 If this episode resonates, share it with a fellow parent who’s curious about Human Design—or who could use more ease and understanding at home. Thanks for listening—and remember: it’s not about being perfect. It’s about parenting from your truth, in your way, with your energy.

    📩 Connect with us:

    Follow Courtney on IG @the_eo_seahorse
    Connect with Bryn at brynbrown.com

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    Parents Using Human Design PodcastBy Courtney Osselaer & Bryn Brown