S1 E14 Bryan - This episode is a deep dive into the science of stress, identity, and connection—and a compassionate challenge to rethink how we parent, partner, and relate. Bryan grew up adopted in Oklahoma, raised in a home shaped by love, trauma, and silence—where no one yet had the language to understand how early separation, in-utero experiences, and generational stress shape a child’s nervous system. Decades later, that lived experience became the foundation for his work helping parents and professionals understand what children actually need to heal and thrive.

In this wide-ranging conversation, Kara speaks with Bryan Post, a trauma-responsive parenting educator with over 30 years of experience working with adopted, fostered, and trauma-impacted children and families. Together, they unpack why so many well-intentioned parenting approaches fail—and what actually helps when identity, attachment, and regulation are disrupted.

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In this episode, Kara and Bryan talk about:

• Being adopted as an infant and growing up in a home shaped by unresolved trauma
• How in-utero experiences influence regulation, attachment, and later behavior
• Why siblings raised in the same home can have radically different outcomes
• The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-responsive parenting
• How stress—not “bad behavior”—drives emotional reactivity in children and adults
• Why attachment cannot form without regulation and co-regulation
• How early relational trauma becomes woven into identity and personality
• The role of grief, breath, and nervous-system awareness in healing

Everyone has the right to know the truth about where they come from. Unraveling Me speaks to those people impacted by DNA surprises, NPEs (non-paternal event), adoption, assisted reproduction, and other revelations that their parentage isn't entirely what they thought. Having experienced an NPE herself, Kara (through Right To Know and this podcast) seeks to highlight those moments when we learn the most unsettling of secret—who we really are.

At Right To Know, we encourage engagement to facilitate and create real change. As an organization, we are inclusive. We assist adoptees, the donor-conceived community, people with an NPE, birth parents, gamete providers, new genetic family, recipient parents, raising families, and significant others. In learning and growing from each other, we must put the voices of adoptees, donor conceived, and people with an NPE first.

For more information about Right To Know - or if you have a story you want to tell - please visit us at https://righttoknow.us/.

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