Tony and Kara discuss the significant and surprising impact our expectations and fears have on our children. Beginning with a 2015 Invisibilia podcast about a blind man who found that the expectations of his parents helped him develop the ability to see without his eyes, the discussion moves to Peter Gray, the unschooling champion who has written extensively about fear-based parenting and the ways our fears handicap our children… literally handicap them.

 links and resources referenced in the podcast:

Invisibilia Podcast: https://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/378577902/how-to-become-batman

Peter Gray on Fear-Based Parenting: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201903/the-many-shades-fear-based-parenting

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/200907/play-makes-us-human-vi-hunter-gatherers-playful-parenting

The Culture of Childhood (We've Almost Destroyed It) Peter Gray: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201610/the-culture-childhood-we-ve-almost-destroyed-it

How to Raise An Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (Julie Lythcott-Haims) https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult

Janet Lansbury Podcast & Blog: https://www.janetlansbury.com/tag/podcasts/

Susan Stiffelman : https://susanstiffelman.com/

3 Ways to Stop Parenting out of Fear: https://medium.com/be-unique/3-ways-to-stop-parenting-out-of-fear-eebb785e9513

Aware Parenting Institute: http://awareparenting.com/

Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne: https://www.simplicityparenting.com/about-simplicity-parenting/about-kim-john-payne/

Free Range Kids: https://www.freerangekids.com/