If you’re a NICU dad — or you are supporting one — this episode is absolutely for you. 

Today we’re joined by Tony Rush — a Senior Neonatal Nurse and Clinical Nurse Manager who’s been in the NICU since 1990. After starting out as a psychiatric nurse, Tony has spent decades helping families navigate some of the hardest moments of their lives.

Across thousands of NICU admissions, he’s gained rare insight into the lived experience of dads — and he’s seen that role change dramatically. From being treated as visitors to becoming active, hands-on caregivers at the bedside.

Tony speaks candidly about the importance of dads being supported, understood, and genuinely included. He shares why connection with male nurses and specialists can be so impactful, and how that can open the door for dads to engage more honestly.

After witnessing many fathers show signs of trauma and psychological distress — often with nowhere to turn — Tony became a strong advocate for better dad-specific support. Because for a long time, there simply wasn’t anything available for dads unless it was through mum.

This conversation is about taking the armour off. About allowing support in. And about dads stepping up to build communities, groups, and spaces where other dads don’t have to do this alone.