Not Working Right Now

S2E4: Detours Become Directions; A conversation with Marisa Bernardo


Listen Later

What happens when life forces a pivot you never planned for — and you still choose to keep going?

In this deeply honest conversation, Alicia and Melyse sit down with Marisa, founder of Defining Journeys, to unpack what happens before the pivot — and what can grow on the other side when life changes the plan.

Marissa shares her winding, multi-path career journey — from early childhood education and working within the school board, to returning to school (again and again), to navigating a cervical cancer diagnosis, infertility, and ultimately becoming a parent through surrogacy. What began as a career pivot rooted in family planning became something much bigger: a calling shaped by lived experience.


Together, they explore:

  • Why loving your job doesn’t always mean it’s sustainable or the right one, right now

  • The quiet burnout that comes from underpaid “purpose-driven” work

  • How health, fertility, and family realities can completely redirect your career

  • The loneliness of navigating infertility and surrogacy — and why lived experience matters

  • Building a flexible, values-aligned career without burning it all down overnight

  • How small, consistent actions create momentum when everything feels uncertain

This episode is for anyone in the messy middle — especially if your pivot wasn’t a choice, but a necessity. It’s a reminder that detours can become directions, and that the life you build after the plan falls apart can be even more aligned than the one you imagined.

...more
View all episodesView all episodes
Download on the App Store

Not Working Right NowBy Melyse Skaarup and Alicia Jones