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S3 Ep11 - The Impact of Trauma on Identity with Jessica Ella

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Summary:

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we delve into the profound impact of trauma on identity, particularly for women as Jessica Ella shares her profound journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse.

Jess discusses her unique approach to trauma recovery, emphasising the importance of understanding complex trauma and its impact on identity. She recounts her personal experiences of abuse, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the power of disclosure. The conversation highlights the flaws in the justice system and the necessity of support systems for survivors. Ultimately, Jessica's message is one of empowerment and hope, encouraging others to reclaim their power and heal from their past.

Takeaways:

  • Jessica Ella's journey into healing began from her own trauma.
  • She developed a unique method to help others heal from trauma.
  • Complex trauma can significantly affect one's identity and self-worth.
  • The act of abuse is often less traumatic than the secrecy surrounding it.
  • Disclosure is a powerful tool for survivors to reclaim their narrative.
  • Family dynamics play a crucial role in the experience of abuse.
  • Support systems are essential for healing and recovery.
  • The justice system often fails to protect victims of familial abuse.
  • Survivors can choose how to respond to their abusers.
  • Healing is possible, and it requires a commitment to self-discovery. Healing is a continuous journey that requires daily commitment.
  • Children often mirror the behaviors of their parents, triggering unresolved issues.
  • Seeking justice can be a complex and emotional process.
  • Empowerment comes from healing and helping others.
  • Trauma can be understood as an open memory that needs closure.
  • Creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings is crucial.
  • Parents must address their own trauma to effectively support their children.
  • It's important to communicate openly with children about difficult topics.
  • Healing from trauma is possible and does not define a person's future.
  • Resources and education are vital for both parents and children.

    • Chapters:

    • 00:00 - Introduction to Jessica Ella's Journey
    • 03:09 - Healing Through Trauma: Jessica's Methodology
    • 07:08 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Identity
    • 10:24 - Jessica's Personal Story of Abuse
    • 13:59 - The Impact of Abuse on Mental Health
    • 17:38 - The Power of Healing and Self-Discovery
    • 22:08 - The Dynamics of Power in Abuse
    • 24:23 - The Role of Family in Trauma
    • 27:46 - Recognising Red Flags in Abusive Relationships
    • 29:51 - The Challenges of Family Court and Child Support
    • 31:07 - Trust Issues with the Justice System
    • 32:12 - The Complexity of Child Disclosure
    • 34:08 - Factors Influencing Child Recantation
    • 35:51 - The Confusion of Love and Abuse
    • 37:21 - The Child's Need for Parental Love
    • 40:08 - The Impact of Parental Abuse on Self-Love
    • 42:15 - The Betrayal of Trust in Family Dynamics
    • 44:06 - Navigating the Justice System
    • 47:37 - Finding Empowerment Beyond Trauma
    • 51:53 - Understanding Trauma and Healing Methods
    • 55:54 - Understanding Trauma and Memory Processing
    • 01:00:59 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children
    • 01:05:19 - Healing from Complex Trauma
    • 01:09:34 - Supporting Children After Trauma Disclosure
    • 01:12:19 - Resources for Parents and Caregivers
    • 01:16:07 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

      • For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources 

      You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/zl2VFsIw8qA

      To learn more and connect with Jess please head to her Instagram @iamjessicaella and you can grab a copy of the book "Secret or Surprise" at https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au  

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