human2human with Stacy Ike

S3 Ep6: Kier Gaines On Navigating New Friendships, Nurturing Older Friendships and Staying Curious About What Relationships Teach Us About Ourselves

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On this week’s episode of human2human with Stacy Ike, we have licensed therapist, father, husband, and thought leader, Kier Gaines! Kier and Stacy dive deep into the curiosity of friendships: how they change over the years, updating your friends about your life changes, and the excitement of attending friend therapy.

SHOW NOTES | KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  • 00:00 - Intro
  • 01:14 - Song of the week
  • 01:21 - Book of the week
  • 01:25 - Reflection Question - How have you shown up for your friendships in the past and how would you like to show up in your friendships moving forward?
  • 02:07 - Kier talks about making new friendships in 2022 
  • 05:18 - What happens when you’re bothered by something a friend did but you don’t address it at that moment?
  • 09:00 - Season Question - Have you learned anything about yourself through friendships?
  • 12:58 - Kier dives into updating each other on our new operating systems within a relationship
  • 14:35 - “You can’t measure the amount of change that’s happening in a person” - Kier Gaines
  • 14:55 - Why do we oversimplify the concept of relationships? 
  • 16:00 - How to trust your friend’s reflections of you
  • 16:44 - How to respect a person for who they are
  • 18:51 - “Giving people the benefit of the doubt through growth” - Kier Gaines
  • 20:09 - Are expectations in friendships a problem? 
  • 21:20 - Kier talks about taking personal responsibility in your relationships 
  • 22:30 - Kier speaks on turning a close friendship into an acquaintanceship 
  • 28:08 - Kier talks about one of his favorite therapists @kobecampbell_
  • 28:17 - Kier dives into doing the work versus doing self-care 
  • 29:17 - What ingredients make up a quality friendship? 
  • 36:06 - What does doing the work look like in relationships? 
  • 36:44 - Kier talks about why therapy is important and being realistic about your journey to self-awareness
  • 38:19 - Kier speaks to the importance of friendship therapy
  • 40:00 - Kier talks about the difference between men and women within the mental health space
  • 42:38 - Honest Gems 
    • What is something they don't tell us about being a good friend?
    • What is something they don't tell us about personal growth within friendships?
    • What is something they don't tell us about navigating life with transitions to win friendships? 
    • 48:45 - Kier on making new friends at this time in his life
    • 52:17 - Kier advises on how to organically make new friends
    • 54:33 - “Shouts out the people who are consciously overcoming mistrust and distrust of people and making new friends” - Kier Gains 

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      CREDITS:
      Executive Producer: Stacy Ike
      Producer: Paris McCoy
      Associate Producer: Emma Jackson
      Audio Engineer: Brian Shaffer
      Theme Music: Pieces by “After The Fall"
      Music released by: Chill Out Records 
      Post Production Audio: The Revolt Podcast Network

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