Ever feel like the moment you stop overgiving, people don’t clap… they panic? In this episode, we dock in Bocas del Toro and walk into Ruperto’s open-air house on the water—beautiful, honest, and absolutely not built for pretending. And that’s the point: when you start living more truthfully, the old crew can suddenly feel… incompatible.

We talk about the social wake your boundaries create, why “familiar” isn’t the same as “safe,” and how to build a new support crew that respects your limits without turning your life into lonely island exile.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re shutters (because open-air living still needs wisdom)

• The 3 shutters that protect your peace: time access, emotional labor, values alignment

• How to meet new people without making it a second job (or joining a book club you secretly hate)

• How new friendships actually form in adulthood: small “paddle trips,” repeated over time (like building a pagoda one load at a time)