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In this episode, Ann and Kim place money on the table — not as a problem to solve, but as a relationship to notice. What begins as a conversation about discomfort, avoidance, and judgement slowly opens into something softer: a sense that money can be met with curiosity, connection, and even care.
Together, they explore how many of us spend years out of relationship with money — ignoring it, resenting it, fearing it, or handing responsibility to someone else. Through a nervous system–first lens, they name the familiar patterns that surface around finances: the rising urgency, the tight control, the distance, the shutdown, the freeze, and the inner critic who narrates all of it.
As Kim shares a recent insight — imagining what it might look like to mother money, Ann shares how this has led to something shifting for her.
The episode covers:
How sympathetic, dorsal, and freeze responses often shape our behaviours with money
The beliefs we carry from family, culture, and past experiences
The surprising relief that emerges when we simply acknowledge, “I will be okay”
The link between money and self-worth, especially when it comes to spending on our own wellbeing
The courage it takes to name a need and ask for what supports us
How playfulness, spaciousness, and a sense of “enoughness” become available when we reconnect
Why the amount of money we have is rarely the real issue — it’s the relationship that creates safety or strain
This conversation doesn’t offer a formula or a promise of abundance. Instead, it offers something far more honest and nourishing: an invitation to come into relationship with money in a way that honours your body, your capacity, and your lived experience.
By the end, we hope money feels less like a threat or a mystery, and more like another place where connection, care, and growth are possible.
By Ann de Passos and Kim van NiekerkIn this episode, Ann and Kim place money on the table — not as a problem to solve, but as a relationship to notice. What begins as a conversation about discomfort, avoidance, and judgement slowly opens into something softer: a sense that money can be met with curiosity, connection, and even care.
Together, they explore how many of us spend years out of relationship with money — ignoring it, resenting it, fearing it, or handing responsibility to someone else. Through a nervous system–first lens, they name the familiar patterns that surface around finances: the rising urgency, the tight control, the distance, the shutdown, the freeze, and the inner critic who narrates all of it.
As Kim shares a recent insight — imagining what it might look like to mother money, Ann shares how this has led to something shifting for her.
The episode covers:
How sympathetic, dorsal, and freeze responses often shape our behaviours with money
The beliefs we carry from family, culture, and past experiences
The surprising relief that emerges when we simply acknowledge, “I will be okay”
The link between money and self-worth, especially when it comes to spending on our own wellbeing
The courage it takes to name a need and ask for what supports us
How playfulness, spaciousness, and a sense of “enoughness” become available when we reconnect
Why the amount of money we have is rarely the real issue — it’s the relationship that creates safety or strain
This conversation doesn’t offer a formula or a promise of abundance. Instead, it offers something far more honest and nourishing: an invitation to come into relationship with money in a way that honours your body, your capacity, and your lived experience.
By the end, we hope money feels less like a threat or a mystery, and more like another place where connection, care, and growth are possible.