PSA: Ian’s mic went out towards the end - ugh. So we apologize in advance for that inconvenience, but appreciate your continued support in our very real life, authentic life. We hope it helps!

This week we talk about how much words matter in your marriage! Not just the words you speak out loud, but the ones you repeat in your head. The stories we continue to tell ourselves that draw a battle line we didn’t even know we were facing.

Or one step further- when you say the words out loud what is the tone you use?

Who are you sharing it with?

Do you find yourself being more critical than uplifting?

If you want a real marriage and not just a roommate then listen to this episode on how making small changes in your approach with words can really build the team mindset in your marriage… or break it if you don’t.

The question that plagues everyone after a betrayal situation. If you are the betrayed spouse you want to know why didn’t they just leave you? If you are the family and friends, you want to know why the person who got betrayed didn’t just leave?

How did it even get to a point where this conversation is being had and why does it exist more than any of us know or want to admit?

We dig into and more on this episode. You don’t want to miss it.

If you or someone you know would benefit please share. This is happening so much more than most of us realize.

It’s “easy” to see what you missed after you went through it. That’s where we come in. If not us, find someone to help you walk through the most important relationship you will have because hindsight is 20/20.

Join us this week as we recap what we learned during the Salt & Light couples retreat and not just the retreat, but over the last few months.

The same roadblocks in marriage and relatives coming up from all different kinds of couples: not just the empty nesters, or those with a house full of kids, but all walk of life- even singles!

We are on retreat this weekend & we couldn’t be more excited & humbled. We have an amazing rescue & redemption story that we get to share.

As we prepped for retreat we couldn’t help but look back on how far we have come. From the absolute darkest, most hopeless marriage to living and loving the life we always dreamed of.

So we are doing a replay of our first episode “I want out.” Maybe you don’t have our exact situation, but you know you aren’t happy & this is not what you signed up for. Or you know a couple that is in that situation.

We know how alone it feels at the bottom, but we know there is light just on the other side & you have to claw your way out to see it.

We want to walk along side you to remind you that no matter where you are or have been, you are enough.

It will get better & it is a choice. Love is an action word.

It all started here. God took what we broke & made

something beautiful & we will share that with anyone who needs the reminder. It can be you and your marriage too.

You often hear the road to hell is paved with good intentions. What about the road to a happy marriage?

Or anything worth having is worth working for, but then if it’s meant to be it shouldn’t be this hard?

The reality is everything in your life takes intention which is work. It doesn’t just come naturally and easy every day.

We believe the road to a happy marriage isn’t paved at all. It’s gravel and full of potholes, for every single relationship.

It takes self reflection, awareness, and a whole lot of grace on the journey, but it is so worth the effort.

It’s not just the expectations you have for your spouse that affect your marriage, but also the ones you have for yourself.

Often this causes your pride to take a hit and instead of saying “I need you” we begin to get more critical of ourselves and in turn, our spouses.

It also can cause us to project assumptions of what we think their reaction could be or even should be and there is the reason not to say anything… or so we think.

Not to mention the issue of if we do tell them and they don’t do it the way we would do it- what a let down!

And we tell them how wrong they are- especially when it comes to loading the dishwasher, folding the towels or helping with the kids.

It’s not how we would do it. Clearly they are wrong.

But how do those small moments add up and erode the relationship with the person we are supposed to be the most connected too?

Is there someone in your life that is always taking care of everyone and everything?

Maybe your spouse, best friend, mentor?

Part of making meaningful connections is the give and the take. It’s creates intimacy and vulnerability and a relationship that will stand the bad times and the great times.

We discuss how we not only hope we are pouring into others, but how we have learned to let others pour into us too.

And how this actually affects your marriage.

The first step in cultivating great relationships is creating the space for great communication.

Join the guys for the second half of their conversation. The touch on faith, having kids Vs not, standards for themselves and others and much more.

Yall. There are not enough words to describe this episode! It’s so good and it’s only part 1!!

Join Ian and two of our close friends in a guys side of the story.

The guys sit down to discuss marriage as a newly wed, divorced and remarried and of course, recovering from a betrayal husband.

Get the guys perspective on life, marriage, kids, how to be a leader, friend, provider…

So many things. This is good!

It’s so important to be on the same page as your spouse. To be a team. But what happens when you don’t agree or have the same goals?

We discuss how we have incorporated our “meeting of the minds” time into our marriage. It has been a game changer in so many ways.

And it’s not some lovey dovey conversation we discuss our values, goals, expectations, and more.

10/10 recommend