Work with meAccess the Feral Effect hereLets normalize the freeze response so we can feel less shame and access more joy after sexual trauma.Listen for

-what is happening in the body when Freeze happens, and why its not the same as "doing nothing"

-How to gently come out of a freeze response

-the next phase of healing after "survivor" that I want everyone to experience

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At the risk of sounding dramatic, this episode covers some of most important things I've learned that have changed my view of my body, and my relationship to my sexuality after assault.

Whether you've been through it or love someone who has, you'll hear:

-understand why you didn't try to fight back or run away

-what comes next after the identifying as a survivor

-the most important piece to sexual healing that most people accidentally skip over

intimacy block quiz⁠

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trauma impacts you in all kinds of ways, what about your sexuality? listen for:

-why this is question is a dead end, and actually helpful questions to help you understand and accept yourself no matter what you find

intimacy block quiz

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trauma impacts you in all kinds of ways, what about your sexuality? I break down why this is question won't get you closer to figuring out your sexuality and what questions to explore instead.

Understand how trauma is blocking your intimacy Quiz

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If you've ever googled "how to dress like a lesbian" this is for you.Listen for how internalized homophobia and the patriarchy are behind your quest to look gay enough and how to develop real confidence and self acceptance.

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Oh, the sweet chaos of burning it all down to start over.

This ultimate guide to navigating your new queer dating life covers:

-The mindset shift that is crucial to finding queer love

-Why your dating skills with men don't transfer to women, and how to get lesbians to know you're gay too (without wrapping yourself in the rainbow flag)

-the key to great lesbian sex (it's not what you think)

I earned my late bloomer scars, and I'm passing the lessons on to you, friend. Here is everything I wish someone would have told me.

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The aftermath of leaving a high control group as a queer person is something we don't talk about enough. I shed light on:

-the control tactics that infiltrated my sex and relationships

-why I once said, "I would have sex with a woman but I could never be in a relationship with one"

-exploring thought crime

-What is self monitoring and why its a harmful habit

-and how I finally found self acceptance and joy in my body and in my queer intimacy

This is my favorite episode yet! Share your experiences with religious dogma below so we can normalize our experiences.

What does it mean when you want to submit in the bedroom, but not in your daily life? Are you enacting the patriarchy? Can you choose what turns you on? I challenge you to listen with curiosity and leave the judgement at the door.

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When you love your partner so much but the sex is non existent, does it mean you're with the wrong person?

Why do you get along so well but when it comes to sex it feels... forced?

Listen for why improving the relationship doesn't usually fix your sex life, and how to begin bridging the gap between love and desire.

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What happens when you're SO into her and you enjoy the way she touches you, but your orgasm feels elusive? Why can you cum on your own but not with a partner?

Listen to find out:

>the hidden meaning of struggling to orgasm

>the wrong goal most people chase that makes orgasm more difficult and what to focus on instead

>how to talk about it without your partner feeling blamed

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