Sarah was a single mum doing everything to make ends meet when she re-connected with a childhood friend who she’d never really liked, but years later, as an adult, sparks flew.    But it wasn’t long before she realised those traits she hadn’t liked in their childhood hadn’t disappeared   She couldn’t escape his psychological, physical and sexual abuse of her. She lived in fear every single day. 
This is Sarah's story. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sarah lived in fear every single day. Part 2

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Narelle Fraser was in the Victorian Police Force for 27 years, 15 of which were spent as a detective dealing with everything from a stolen bicycle to a stolen life. However, Narelle’s career was cut short when she succumbed to PTSD, retiring in 2012 and reinventing herself as a public speaker and occasional guest on the Australian True Crime Podcast. In NFI, Narelle examines the human side of the impact of crime in a compelling and emotive series of podcasts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Sel is a trauma informed lawyer and understands the stresses clients experience when navigating the Family Court system as unfortunately, she has experienced this on a personal level, so she really DOES understand the impacts. Sel is committed to trying to resolve family law matters in a timely way without court proceedings where possible.   There’s so much I’d love to chat to Sel about today, because, in my podcast and policing world, I’ve heard too many stories of those treated poorly by the court system, particularly in family court matters where the common themes seem to include humiliation, intimidation and feeling demeaned by defence lawyers. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Selena (Sel) McCrickard - part 2

Sel is a trauma informed lawyer and understands the stresses clients experience when navigating the Family Court system as unfortunately, she has experienced this on a personal level, so she really DOES understand the impacts. Sel is committed to trying to resolve family law matters in a timely way without court proceedings where possible.
There’s so much I’d love to chat to Sel about today, because, in my podcast and policing world, I’ve heard too many stories of those treated poorly by the court system, particularly in family court matters where the common themes seem to include humiliation, intimidation and feeling demeaned by defence lawyers. 
 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Selena (Sel) McCrickard - part 1

In 1990 Assistant Commissioner Ray Shuey called Chief Inspector Rob Bailey to his office, as Rob had already managed one force-wide project called TRIM (the tape recording of formal interviews) in the 80”s Rob was asked to select a group of selected people to investigate the potential to introduce Computer Aided Dispatch to the Victoria Police. Ultimately in 1996 Rob decommissioned D24 at Russell Street and a combined EMS was implemented at the Police Centre (in what was a car park) and at Tally Ho at Burwood. Rob was initially the Project Manager and at the end the project, after 6 years, was co-ordinator for the estimated cost of around $360m project; Rob talks about the great team & environment which was created & shares some stories about the evolution including the fact; ·     He was offered a bribe ·     he WITNESSED CORRUPTION ·     the difficulties in POLICE COMMAND NOT UNDERSTANDING THE CONCEPT; ·     THE EVALUATION PROCESS AND POLITICAL INTERFERENCE; ·     BUSINESS CONTINUITY PLANS AND INTERRUPTIONS ·     FALSE ACCUSATION OF INTERGRAPH CAUSING DEATHS ·     FALSE INFORMATION PROVIDED TO THE CORONER ·     DEATH OF A WOMAN AND BABY ·     PERJURY AT THE CORONERS COURT ·     CORRUPTION AT TALLY HO CENTRE ·     The waste of time & resources into a ROYAL COMMISSION ·     MISINFORMATION BY THE MEDIA, PARTICULARLY 3AW Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Robin (Rob) Bailey - Intergraph - The Whole Story!

You wouldn’t believe that we’re recording this the day after the Victims of Crime Commissioner here in Victoria released her report titled ‘Silenced and  Sidelined” which was a disturbing report/insight into how victims of crime are treated by the justice system – from their initial report to Police through to their experience in the court system and how we can improve that experience.  It was disturbing reading.  My guest today Tammy Casselson’s story just highlights and  confirms what the Victim of Crime Commission found in her report.  What REALLY frustrates me is the fact that since 2016 there have been 7 reports into how victims are treated in the justice system and  what can be done to improve their experience.  With all due respect to Fiona McCormack, the Victims of Crime Commissioner, nothing seems to have changed.  We just seem to be going round & round in circles.  And Tammy’s story is proof of that……………
Tammy Casseslon had it all – or so it appeared.  A carefree, happy childhood, happy upbringing, meets Mr Handsome, Mr Popular, Mr Nice Guy, Mr Life of the Party who also had a carefree happy childhood & happy upbringing. A happy life, right??!!  Tammy & her husband had 2 adorable children and  everything just seemed perfect. 
But behind closed doors Tammy didn’t “have it all”.  She was frightened.  Her husband’s behaviour was becoming more unpredictable – his bursts of anger, his yelling, his insults & his threats, not only towards her, but their children.
Mr Handsome had become Mr Narcissist, Mr Abusive, Mr Vindictive, Mr Controlling, Mr Demeaning.   Like so many other survivors of D&FV;, Tammy made excuses for his behaviour, not recognising or understanding the seriousness of his increasingly violent behaviour.  It wasn’t until an ill-fated attempt at taking his own life and   ending up in hospital, Tammy found the courage to leave.  That’s when she realised his abuse had included financial abuse & discovered their finances were in shatters, non-existent.  He’d kept it secret from her that they had nothing – and Tammy and  her children were homeless.  But homelessness was a safer option than staying.  How does a successful, educated professional woman with a background in counselling, psychology, & teaching become homeless?
Tammy was dragged through the court system where all the games her husband could have played, he did – along with his legal representatives whom she felt belittled and  intimidated by.
Tammy’s husband eventually did end his life but left a lot of heartache & “what ifs”.  ‘What if’ they could have tried some type of amicable reconciliation, ‘what if’ their children & their father could have mended some of the damaged relationship, ‘what if’ he’d sought some help – his death became a senseless  void unable to be filled.  All because he refused to seek help.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tammy Casselson part 2

You wouldn’t believe that we’re recording this the day after the Victims of Crime Commissioner here in Victoria released her report titled ‘Silenced & Sidelined” which was a disturbing report/insight into how victims of crime are treated by the justice system – from their initial report to Police through to their experience in the court system & how we can improve that experience. It was disturbing reading. My guest today Tammy Casselson’s story just highlights & confirms what the Victim of Crime Commission found in her report. What REALLY frustrates me is the fact that since 2016 there have been 7 reports into how victims are treated in the justice system & what can be done to improve their experience. With all due respect to Fiona McCormack, the Victims of Crime Commissioner, nothing seems to have changed. We just seem to be going round & round in circles. And Tammy’s story is proof of that……………
Tammy Casseslon had it all – or so it appeared. A carefree, happy childhood, happy upbringing, meets Mr Handsome, Mr Popular, Mr Nice Guy, Mr Life of the Party who also had a carefree happy childhood & happy upbringing. A happy life, right??!! Tammy & her husband had 2 adorable children & everything just seemed perfect.  But behind closed doors Tammy didn’t “have it all”. She was frightened. Her husband’s behaviour was becoming more unpredictable – his bursts of anger, his yelling, his insults & his threats, not only towards her, but their children.
Mr Handsome had become Mr Narcissist, Mr Abusive, Mr Vindictive, Mr Controlling, Mr Demeaning.  Like so many other survivors of D&FV;, Tammy made excuses for his behaviour, not recognising or understanding the seriousness of his increasingly violent behaviour. It wasn’t until an ill-fated attempt at taking his own life & ending up in hospital, Tammy found the courage to leave. That’s when she realised his abuse had included financial abuse & discovered their finances were in shatters, non-existent. He’d kept it secret from her that they had nothing – & Tammy & her children were homeless. But homelessness was a safer option than staying.  How does a successful, educated professional woman with a background in counselling, psychology, & teaching become homeless?
Tammy was dragged through the court system where all the games her husband could have played, he did – along with his legal representatives whom she felt belittled & intimidated by.
Tammy’s husband eventually did end his life but left a lot of heartache & “what ifs”. ‘What if’ they could have tried some type of amicable reconciliation, ‘what if’ their children & their father could have mended some of the damaged relationship, ‘what if’ he’d sought some help – his death became a senseless void unable to be filled. All because he refused to seek help.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sarah lived in fear every single day. Part 2

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