She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor 5 doors down?

A woman has enjoyed friends-with-benefits relationship with a man where all they do is cuddle and have sex. No outings with friends. No movies. No hikes. Now that he is beginning to get serious with another woman, can they maintain this friendship *without* the benefits?

On the Magnum, a very miserable woman considers doing sex work after applying for hundreds of jobs with no results. Dan brings on Ashley Bloomberg- a sex researcher who recently published a paper on the reasons sex workers in Las Vegas pursued their careers. The difference between doing sex work under duress vs. doing sex work out of genuine desire is stark.

And, it’s the nightmare scenario: A queer, polyamorous woman dating a trans woman has a 14 year-old son who has gone full conservative Christian on her. The lad thinks that sex outside of marriage is an unforgivable sin. What is going on with him, and how can the caller bring him to a more kind and reasonable mindset?

Call with your questions, or you will be banished to the lake of fire.

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For this After Action Report, Dan chats with Ember, a life-long sneeze fetishist. She gets turned on when her lovers sneeze, and thus, stocks up on imported sneezing powder. And although she prefers being a sneezing dom, she also delved into submission and share the details.

Hear about her journey.

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A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing.

Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan brings on a veterinarian from Seattle's Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed "gross."

On the Magnum, we all know that LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. But what about... girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on to talk about the physiology of female pleasure. Also, she and Dan discuss the continuing bewildering popularity of choking.

A woman has a fantastic, indulgent, skilled lover. She is loud but non-verbal when she comes. He wants to know exactly when she is going over the falls. How can she let him know without having to say "NOW!"

You should ask Dan a question NOW!

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After Action Report #3

Squirting Kira

This week, meet a woman who finally, after YEARS of persistence, has learned how to squirt.

Practice makes perfect, and now she has mastered the messy art. Hear all about how she got there, what she plans for her squirting future, and "Is female ejaculate actually pee?" Kira ends the controversy definitively.

Have you gotten out of (or into) your comfort zone? Write us at [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back to you.

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A woman's bisexual husband has been getting "gayer and gayer" to the point where he is only interested in her if she acts like a dude. Her friend is worried about her. How can this marriage work?

Are there any straight leather daddies out there who aren't misogynistic creeps? This caller is NOT HAPPY.

On the Magnum, it's a "What You Got" with psychology professor Dr. Justin Mogilski. His study on people who maintain friendships with their exes was misinterpreted and misused. He and Dan talk about why the myths persist, and about his new study looking at the ingredients that make open relationships work.

And, a newly out femme lesbian loves her long, detailed, luscious nails. But for obvious reasons, she thinks she should probably trim a couple of them. Will people notice?

Rrrrwwwworrrr!

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On this week's After Action Report, a trans man made his way to his first furry party. He doesn't have a full suit yet, just paws, ears and a tail. For those in full fur suits, you might be wondering: How do they, you know...do it? You'll have to listen for this detail.

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A woman's lefty friend berated her for enjoying drag, saying it's like blackface for trans women. The caller loves drag and had never thought about this before. Is it true?

A straight man loves the idea of seeing a naked woman walking around her house. He wonders if others would love to see him naked, you know, just kickin' it at home.

On the Magnum, let the swooning begin! Actor Ben Palacios from Palm Royale is charming, talented and easy on the eyes. He relays his tales of kissing Ricky Martin, and making a fool of himself in front of Carol Burnett. Dan and Ben share their first boyfriend experiences, and advise a straight couple who are arguing over the man's ball scratching habit. Also, should a straight man take poppers before his proctology exam?

And dating new divorcees: Bad idea, or not a problem?

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Welcome to our first stand-alone After-Action Report!

He got in a full body spiderman suit. And then the action began.

Hear Dan chat with the man who took cos-play to a whole new level.

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A woman just started a dating a man 12 years her junior. But he doesn't know her age, and has never asked her, even on her birthday. Should she tell him?

A couple were approached by a man who initiated a relationship where he is their sex slave. But he is a very demanding slave, sending too many texts, and generally violating their boundaries. He pays them for their attentions. So who's the boss here?

Dan welcomes Imani Askew-Shabazz from PlanCPills.org on the show to talk about abortion medication by mail.

On the Magnum, Dan loves it when scientists affirm what he's been saying for years. In this "What You Got?" we welcome Dr. Amy Muise, Psychology and Research Chair in Relationships and Sexuality at York University. They talk about spontaneous vs. planned or scheduled sex. Which do you think is more satisfying?

And, a woman with fragrance sensitivity has trouble convincing her friends and family to give the stinky cologne a rest.

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Compare and contrast these two body image calls: A woman's boyfriend is so insecure about his big body, that he can't get hard. She thinks he's hot as can be but can't seem to convince him of this. Meanwhile, a man finds that most of the women he meets in his open relationship dating community are too fat for him. Where can he find some skinny chicks into non-monogamy?

Is there a top shortage? Not enough tops? Should we panic? Where are they???

On the Magnum, learn all about pup play with Amp! Amp is a Producer, streamer and co-creator of the kink educational channel "Watts The Safeword." He and Dan chat about the difference between light-hearted rolling-around-on-the-floor type pup play vs. hardcore BDSM pup play. They also talk about how very unwelcome children are at Folsom, and learn all about Locktober! (If you aren't already celebrating, as Amp is.)

And, guncle to the rescue! A man living in South America has a 12 year-old great nephew, who he is convinced is gay. The poor kid lives in blood red Trump country in a conservative family. The caller worries that if he isn't subtle enough in his outreach to this boy, that he'll out him, and all hell will break loose.

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