A woman's old friend and sometime lover asked her for a beaver shot to ease his stress on an upcoming couples trip. She obliged. Did he thank her? No he did not. She's miffed, and wonders if she's being too sensitive.

We love questions like this: What do gay men actually do with vibrators?

Our guest is the indomitable E. Jean Carroll. She is a journalist and the author of five books, including a biography of Hunter S. Thompson, and The New York Times bestselling book NOT MY TYPE: One Woman vs. a President. After Donald Trump sexually assaulted her in 1995, she notably beat him in court, twice. She and Dan have a frank, funny convo about the courage it took to face Trump and his legal team, how the assault impacted her sex life, and how most politicians are cowards. Dan and E. Jean clearly love each other, and also divulge an insider advice columnist hack. E. Jean Carroll is a hero and belongs on a votive candle. A little of this interview is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum.

A woman with mental health challenges can't get off when her partners wear condoms. Now she's pregnant, and plans to get an abortion. She feels like a fool for getting into this situation. What are her options in the future and are there other women out there who have the same problem?

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A cute li'l gal worries she just isn't a very convincing dom. How can she use psychology to establish her sexy top role?

A newly out pan man is ready to dive into gay culture. But he isn't quite ready to shave his pubes! Does he have to?

On the Magnum, Dan chats with novelist and television writer Kashana Cauley. (Author of The Payback and The Survivalists.) They talk about the pleasure of dystopian novels in a dystopian present, on being a clotheshorse, the student debt crisis, setting boundaries in kink and more!

A very androgynous AFAB person has a ton of pull with both men and women. But they are new to the gay cruising scene and want some tips on navigating those entrancing homo spaces.

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"Not generous." That is what a gay man puts on his app profile to signify that he is not interested in sex workers. Is this offensive?

Hear the heart-warming tale of how a woman spiced up her sex life by creating an Onlyfans account for only one fan- her husband.

A gay man loves going to "gay island." It's a small gathering space in a river where queer folks can be together in a chill, clothing-optional way. But guess who is invading Gay Island! Straight families bring their kids to bask in the homo glow. Dan welcomes queer artist and writer Leo Herrera, to talk about the importance of gay spaces, and then they go into a deep dive about AI porn, and sex robots. There's a little on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum.

And, a man has been married thrice. For each wife, he reversed his previous vasectomy and then got a new one, without ever telling them that he'd done this. Should he come clean about all the vasectomies to his current wife? And seriously, what is up with this guy?

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A woman is grappling with the dubious ethics of financial domination. Her friend asked her to do it, and she made a quick, easy $1k. But she knows that it is addictive and can ruin men's lives. Should she continue?

A gay man is being bothered to distraction by his straight pal who teases and dominates him. They work together. Driven wild by lust, the caller worries that if he acknowledges the dynamic and shares his feelings, all will be lost.

On the Magnum, the dog ate her vibrator. You heard that right. The dog ate her vibrator and broke it. It ran on batteries and had more settings than she needed anyway. What should she replace it with? We bring on our star, beloved cartoonist/sex toy reviewer Erika Moen to advise.

And, a very special After-Action Report! 

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While tidying up after some Airbnb guests, a gay man discovered a vibrator left under the pillow. Should he message the couple and offer to send it back, or would that be too embarrassing?

One year ago, a woman called the show about her boyfriend, and Dan advised her to break up with him. But they are still together today, and the woman wonders if she should tell her boyfriend about the episode.

On the Magnum, Dan chats with Melissa Febos- bestselling author of "The Dry Season: A Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex." Febos pressed pause on her promiscuous life and abstained from sex for a year. She and Dan talk about the ways our sexuality defines us, and how we broadcast our desire.

A trans man is in love with his girlfriend. The sex is good but not great, because the caller can't bear to indulge his kinky side with his beloved. How can he get out of his head and get nasty with her?

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A woman's boyfriend wants her to drug him, have her way with him and share him with her friends. He did this before with an ex, and loved it. She's intrigued, but cautious. Should she do it?

A straight man is miffed when women act like they want to meet for a second time, but then disappear. Aren't women violating the consent culture contract when they do this?

On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Arielle Domb- the intrepid journalist who visited a sex toy brothel in Berlin. Hear about her adventures into the future. Also, they take a call from a sex worker who worries that she and her co-workers are betraying women by faking orgasms for men's pleasure.

A woman is VERY supportive of her trans son. He explained that he doesn't masturbate because his vagina gives him dysphoria. Is there a sex toy she could buy him? How involved should she get here?

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The woman in a married couple that does not want children accidentally got pregnant. This happened once before, and she learned that her husband is against abortion on religious grounds. Should she tell him she will end this pregnancy, or keep it secret from him?

Do accidents happen in BDSM? They sure do! Hear the harrowing tale of one man's consequential mistake. Dan brings on Australian kink educator "The Funny Dom" to talk this one through.

On the Magnum, a woman's husband is recovering from an accident that left him wheelchair-bound. Now they are wondering how to develop a sex life when he can't feel below the waist. Dan brings on queer disability activist/writer Andrew Gurza, to talk about disability grief, sex with disabilities and how the queer community has work to do in supporting access rights.

And, a man in an open relationship is miffed that his wife hates to give him oral sex, but LOVES to give it to her boyfriend. What is going on here?

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A queer woman has a non-binary, AFAB spouse. Her partner can mime the action of cunnilingus with their tongue, flicking and teasing across the dinner table, like a horny lizard. The caller wishes she could do the same, but her tongue just doesn't work that way. She also gets low marks on her oral technique, and couldn't play the clarinet very well in school. Does she just have a bad tongue? Are there exercises she could do?

A 52 year-old straight man was welcomed into a new friend group through his girlfriend. The group has a charismatic "queen bee" leader. When he started seeing a 20 year-old woman, and told the queen bee about it, he was summarily ejected from the group. Now no one will talk to him. What did he do to deserve this?

On the Magnum, a woman sometimes cries when she has an orgasm. It feels fine to her, and she's had no sexual abuse in her past. But her friends insist she must have repressed trauma. Dan brings on Jena Martin, host and creator of the Memory Hole Podcast, a series that looks back at the recovered memory movement and how false memories are still commonly accepted. Are memories "etched into our physiology?" Well, no actually.

And, a 40 year-old woman came out as queer and pan one year ago. But she has never dated women, and her experience with women is limited to some hazy, drunken college nights. Now, she wants to try women again, but finds them too soft and tender. What she really likes, is when the dude she's seeing rails her. So is she even queer?

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A woman in her late 40s is struggling to process a relationship she had when she was in college. She slept with a former professor of hers but then got rejected by him. After she moved away, she arranged a visit with him, and got rejected again. Now, over 20 years later, she's wondering if his actions were unethical or inappropriate.

We've gotten some tricky parenting questions in the past, but this one is extra-special. The caller is a new mother, and the 24/7 dom in a clothed female/naked male relationship. She treats her service sub roughly and her pet name for him is "slut." It's all well and good while the child is an infant, but how can they maintain their relationship style when the kid is older and asking questions like "Why isn't daddy allowed to sit on the furniture?" Dan brings on Lina Dune from the Ask A Sub podcast to advise.

On the Magnum, welcome to the world of competitive masturbation. Meet Colby Jaxxx, a professional gooner content creator and winner of the second season of The Great BateWorld BateOff™! Dan and Colby talk about this niche gig, poppers in gooning culture, the unique challenges when gooners date each other, and the presence of "girlie gooners."

And, a polite gay man endowed with a high volume of come wonders if he should warn his lovers that they are about to be blasted. Or should it be a big surprise?

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Her boyfriend of one year is perfect in every way! Except...he is stoned literally all the time. But he's a great lover, communicates well, and truly loves the caller. So is this really a problem? Will it be eventually?

A gay man was raised Mormon, and got the hell out. Now he's living his best gay life, with a boyfriend he loves. But he never had a slutty phase, and worries that the only way to truly exorcise the Mormon mentality is to break free.

On this week's show, Dan interviews Sacha Coward- a historian and writer specializing in LGBTQ+ history. His book "Queer as Folklore" makes perfect June reading. He and Dan talked about The Little Mermaid as trans allegory, how pornographic unicorns are, and the perverse straightness of the Nosferatu re-make. A little is on the Micro, all of it is on the Magnum.

And, a gay man has been hooking up with a gentleman he suspects to be chronic liar. Is it wrong to ghost such a man?

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