You can NOT live your life fixing the problems of others. Too many adults become so involved in the lives of others that they loose themselves.  Frequently they become so entangled in their attempts to "help" or "heal" someone they live that they exhaust their financial well-being, as well as demoralized themselves.  Learn to live in truth and honesty.  In positive, supportive ways set limits, yet encourage and motivate to solutions.  Do not invest in being a "victim" by sinking into a helplessness that feeds into the pattern of neglect that started it all.  This short audio outlines the beginning of the transformation that you must make.