I have been in your shoes and you'll be fine. This is something we hear too often within the brown community.

Yes to some extent we have gone through similar experiences that others have. This is an advantage that allows us to help others.

But there is a big part we miss. The part of actually understanding what the person is feeling and experiencing.

We can never truly go through the exact same experience as someone else.

Think of the pandemic for example. It is fair to say it affected all of us differently.

Saying we have been in their shoes is the starting point, but more work is required!

In this episode, I talk about if we just tell people we have been in their shoes that it is actually doing more harm than good.

I will touch on how to better understand the person’s situation so you can help them properly.
When you do that, they will feel that:

•Their feelings and experience is valid (they are not weak)
•They are not overreacting
•They can go to you for help because you’ll listen and not make assumptions

Listen to it now!