Oh my goodness, where to start about this week’s episode?! We’re talking with the effervescent and endlessly riveting Jessa Zimmerman who you may remember her from episode . Well, she’s just dropped her AMAZING new book for couples who have a good relationship but are avoiding sex called  Sex without stress; a couple’s guide to overcoming disappointment, avoidance, and pressure.” Jessa shares a snapshot of her 9 step process with us.

 

In this podversation:

• 1:23 - Let’s learn about Jessa
• 3:08 - Why this book?
• 5:28 - The catalyst of grief and the two sides of sex
• 8:46 - Excuses, excuses, excuses.
• 11:29 - Let’s talk about sex baby.
• 13:20 - The traps of desire discrepancy
• 16:50 - The butterflies
• 17:25 - Enjoy the ride ;)
• 20:02 - Being right here
• 22:14 - The alchemy of “No.”
• 24:47 - BE A LITTLE SELFISH!
• 28:47 - Advanced eroticism
• 31:53 - Taking pleasure personally
• 33:57 - Exploration, play, and gentle acceptance in the bedroom.

 

Meet Jessa Zimmerman

Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed sex therapist and couples’ counselor. She specializes in helping couples who have a good relationship but who are avoiding sex because it’s become stressful, negative, disappointing, or pressured. She educates, coaches, and supports people as they go through her 9-phase experiential process that allows them real world practice in changing their relationship and their sex life. She does this work through in person therapy in her office in Seattle, online therapy for Washington residents, her Better Sex podcast, and her soon to be published book aimed at helping couples who are avoiding sex.