“Because the matriarch or patriarch is collapsing, there is no rudder or no anchor to the family structure anymore”

Lizzi’s family went through a painful split as they disagreed on the nature of their mother’s care. She says they had been close, but a complex play of needs in the situation pulled them in different directions, and eventually pulled them apart. Lizzi describes her feelings about institutionalised care, and the duty she feels we have to our elders.