Sign up to save your podcasts
Or
Share Secrets to Understanding Child Development and How This Affects Your Relationship With Your Child
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Or
Secrets to Understanding Child Development and How This Affects Your Relationship With Your Child
[Week 5 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Things you should understand about child development
Would you be curious if I suggested to you that scientific studies on child development do more harm than good? I do suggest this, and for two main reasons:
From reading some study findings, one might think that children never developed and matured until research proved it. All these studies have created academic child experts who rarely spend much time with even their own children, because they are busy studying other children. Children who should probably be spending more time with their parents, so how does that affect the results?
The development of a child is a very individual thing. No one really knows just how much environment, genetics, or training affect a child’s developmental stages. There are many things a child is designed to learn and grow into. It’s like a fail-safe system. Seems like this should encourage parents.
Parents who want happy, healthy relationships with their children will want to avoid getting hung up on the latest findings or cultural expectations. Try making a conscious decision to separate your ego and expectations from how your child is maturing. Let your child mature at his built in pace. When everyone’s kids reach adulthood, no one worth noticing will care who learned to read first. What matters is that they can read as adults.
EPSON MFP image
What are developmental stages?
Developmental stages can be defined as points at which a child becomes capable of certain cognitive or physical tasks. That is, they can now understand things they couldn’t before and control muscles they couldn’t before. Before the pertinent development has occurred, it is futile to expect a child to be able to do certain things. An infant cannot walk; a toddler cannot balance the checkbook; a six-year old cannot have a baby.
Scientific studies lead parents to comparisons and expectations that are often pointless. Add to that the news of the wonderful progress of other children and you have a recipe for parental stress and childhood frustration. Never mind that we rarely hear when parents misrepresented or misunderstood what was going on with their child. They tend to keep that to themselves.
The best way to judge a child’s developmental progress is to think whether or not they have been making any progress since birth. Since the answer is very likely ‘yes,’ a parent should then simply support the child at the current developmental stage and patiently wait for the next one. If children are exposed to life, the
View all episodes
By Laura Blodgett[Week 5 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Things you should understand about child development
Would you be curious if I suggested to you that scientific studies on child development do more harm than good? I do suggest this, and for two main reasons:
From reading some study findings, one might think that children never developed and matured until research proved it. All these studies have created academic child experts who rarely spend much time with even their own children, because they are busy studying other children. Children who should probably be spending more time with their parents, so how does that affect the results?
The development of a child is a very individual thing. No one really knows just how much environment, genetics, or training affect a child’s developmental stages. There are many things a child is designed to learn and grow into. It’s like a fail-safe system. Seems like this should encourage parents.
Parents who want happy, healthy relationships with their children will want to avoid getting hung up on the latest findings or cultural expectations. Try making a conscious decision to separate your ego and expectations from how your child is maturing. Let your child mature at his built in pace. When everyone’s kids reach adulthood, no one worth noticing will care who learned to read first. What matters is that they can read as adults.
EPSON MFP image
What are developmental stages?
Developmental stages can be defined as points at which a child becomes capable of certain cognitive or physical tasks. That is, they can now understand things they couldn’t before and control muscles they couldn’t before. Before the pertinent development has occurred, it is futile to expect a child to be able to do certain things. An infant cannot walk; a toddler cannot balance the checkbook; a six-year old cannot have a baby.
Scientific studies lead parents to comparisons and expectations that are often pointless. Add to that the news of the wonderful progress of other children and you have a recipe for parental stress and childhood frustration. Never mind that we rarely hear when parents misrepresented or misunderstood what was going on with their child. They tend to keep that to themselves.
The best way to judge a child’s developmental progress is to think whether or not they have been making any progress since birth. Since the answer is very likely ‘yes,’ a parent should then simply support the child at the current developmental stage and patiently wait for the next one. If children are exposed to life, the