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Welcome to today's podcast, "The Psychology of Spilling the Beans."
Have you ever felt the weight of a secret pressing down on you? That urge to just tell someone? You're not alone. Research has shown that keeping secrets can be psychologically exhausting and even harmful to our wellbeing.
Michael Slepian, a psychologist at Columbia Business School, has extensively studied how secrets affect us. His research revealed that people ruminate more on secrets that make them feel ashamed versus those that make them feel guilty. Shame-based secrets often relate to mental health issues or traumatic experiences, while guilt-based secrets typically involve hurting or deceiving others.
When we carry shame-based secrets, we often feel worthless and powerless. Guilty secrets, while uncomfortable, tend to make us feel we've "done a bad thing" rather than being a "bad person" - making them less psychologically damaging.
But what drives us to reveal others' secrets? A fascinating study by researchers at Arizona State University and Columbia University found that people are more likely to divulge someone else's secret when it violates their moral code. Jessica Salerno, an associate professor at ASU, explains that people may reveal secrets to "punish" the secret holder when they find the concealed behavior immoral.
However, there are ethical considerations to weigh before revealing confidential information. The CIMA Code of Ethics emphasizes maintaining confidentiality, though exceptions exist for legal requirements or official investigations.
For those burdened by secrets, Slepian suggests that one of the best coping mechanisms is revealing the secret to the right person. But choose wisely - research shows you should select someone less likely to find your secret immoral, or if you've already faced consequences, make that clear to reduce judgment.
Remember, listeners, while unburdening yourself of secrets can provide psychological relief, consider the potential impact on trust and relationships before spilling those beans.
What secrets are you carrying today?
Have you ever felt the weight of a secret pressing down on you? That urge to just tell someone? You're not alone. Research has shown that keeping secrets can be psychologically exhausting and even harmful to our wellbeing.
Michael Slepian, a psychologist at Columbia Business School, has extensively studied how secrets affect us. His research revealed that people ruminate more on secrets that make them feel ashamed versus those that make them feel guilty. Shame-based secrets often relate to mental health issues or traumatic experiences, while guilt-based secrets typically involve hurting or deceiving others.
When we carry shame-based secrets, we often feel worthless and powerless. Guilty secrets, while uncomfortable, tend to make us feel we've "done a bad thing" rather than being a "bad person" - making them less psychologically damaging.
But what drives us to reveal others' secrets? A fascinating study by researchers at Arizona State University and Columbia University found that people are more likely to divulge someone else's secret when it violates their moral code. Jessica Salerno, an associate professor at ASU, explains that people may reveal secrets to "punish" the secret holder when they find the concealed behavior immoral.
However, there are ethical considerations to weigh before revealing confidential information. The CIMA Code of Ethics emphasizes maintaining confidentiality, though exceptions exist for legal requirements or official investigations.
For those burdened by secrets, Slepian suggests that one of the best coping mechanisms is revealing the secret to the right person. But choose wisely - research shows you should select someone less likely to find your secret immoral, or if you've already faced consequences, make that clear to reduce judgment.
Remember, listeners, while unburdening yourself of secrets can provide psychological relief, consider the potential impact on trust and relationships before spilling those beans.
What secrets are you carrying today?
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By Quiet. PleaseWelcome to today's podcast, "The Psychology of Spilling the Beans."
Have you ever felt the weight of a secret pressing down on you? That urge to just tell someone? You're not alone. Research has shown that keeping secrets can be psychologically exhausting and even harmful to our wellbeing.
Michael Slepian, a psychologist at Columbia Business School, has extensively studied how secrets affect us. His research revealed that people ruminate more on secrets that make them feel ashamed versus those that make them feel guilty. Shame-based secrets often relate to mental health issues or traumatic experiences, while guilt-based secrets typically involve hurting or deceiving others.
When we carry shame-based secrets, we often feel worthless and powerless. Guilty secrets, while uncomfortable, tend to make us feel we've "done a bad thing" rather than being a "bad person" - making them less psychologically damaging.
But what drives us to reveal others' secrets? A fascinating study by researchers at Arizona State University and Columbia University found that people are more likely to divulge someone else's secret when it violates their moral code. Jessica Salerno, an associate professor at ASU, explains that people may reveal secrets to "punish" the secret holder when they find the concealed behavior immoral.
However, there are ethical considerations to weigh before revealing confidential information. The CIMA Code of Ethics emphasizes maintaining confidentiality, though exceptions exist for legal requirements or official investigations.
For those burdened by secrets, Slepian suggests that one of the best coping mechanisms is revealing the secret to the right person. But choose wisely - research shows you should select someone less likely to find your secret immoral, or if you've already faced consequences, make that clear to reduce judgment.
Remember, listeners, while unburdening yourself of secrets can provide psychological relief, consider the potential impact on trust and relationships before spilling those beans.
What secrets are you carrying today?
Have you ever felt the weight of a secret pressing down on you? That urge to just tell someone? You're not alone. Research has shown that keeping secrets can be psychologically exhausting and even harmful to our wellbeing.
Michael Slepian, a psychologist at Columbia Business School, has extensively studied how secrets affect us. His research revealed that people ruminate more on secrets that make them feel ashamed versus those that make them feel guilty. Shame-based secrets often relate to mental health issues or traumatic experiences, while guilt-based secrets typically involve hurting or deceiving others.
When we carry shame-based secrets, we often feel worthless and powerless. Guilty secrets, while uncomfortable, tend to make us feel we've "done a bad thing" rather than being a "bad person" - making them less psychologically damaging.
But what drives us to reveal others' secrets? A fascinating study by researchers at Arizona State University and Columbia University found that people are more likely to divulge someone else's secret when it violates their moral code. Jessica Salerno, an associate professor at ASU, explains that people may reveal secrets to "punish" the secret holder when they find the concealed behavior immoral.
However, there are ethical considerations to weigh before revealing confidential information. The CIMA Code of Ethics emphasizes maintaining confidentiality, though exceptions exist for legal requirements or official investigations.
For those burdened by secrets, Slepian suggests that one of the best coping mechanisms is revealing the secret to the right person. But choose wisely - research shows you should select someone less likely to find your secret immoral, or if you've already faced consequences, make that clear to reduce judgment.
Remember, listeners, while unburdening yourself of secrets can provide psychological relief, consider the potential impact on trust and relationships before spilling those beans.
What secrets are you carrying today?