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Self-Care for High Performers (That Actually Works)
For years, I believed self-love was something to earn.
After the results.
After the proving.
After the constant doing.
What I didn’t realize was that my body was keeping score, and it was exhausted.
In this solo episode, I’m inviting you into a deeper conversation about why self-love can feel uncomfortable, indulgent, or even wrong, especially for driven women, caretakers, and those who have learned to measure their worth by contribution and output.
This isn’t a mindset issue.
It’s a nervous system response.
If you can offer compassion to everyone else but struggle to extend it inward, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are not broken. You’ve been conditioned. And that conditioning can be unlearned.
In this episode, I explore:
- Why self-love often feels selfish when your worth has been tied to productivity
- How chronic overgiving registers as a threat in the nervous system
- The difference between self-care and self-love, and why one without the other keeps us stuck
- What self-love actually looks like in everyday life, not in grand gestures
- How tending to yourself creates a ripple effect in how you serve, lead, and live
Key Takeaways:
- Self-love is not indulgence. It is a form of survival and self-trust.
- Pushing through exhaustion isn’t strength. It’s self-abandonment.
- Self-care is an external action. Self-love is an internal relationship.
- Rest does not need to be earned. Your existence is enough.
- When you give from fullness instead of depletion, your impact deepens naturally.
Take a quiet moment and ask yourself:
- What am I needing right now, physically or emotionally?
- Where in my life am I overriding my own signals to keep going?
- What would it look like to offer myself the same compassion I give others today?
You don’t need to fix the answers. Just notice them. Awareness is the first act of self-love.
Resources & Links:- Show Notes: https://akuzmagroup.com/podcast/selfcareforhighperformers
- Free Daily Checklist - https://akuzmagroup.com/daily-routines
- Width of Life Assessment (free) - https://akuzmagroup.com/livethewidthassessment
- Complimentary Clarity Calls - https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19301826&appointmentType=39242213
- Follow me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/anetakuzmacoaching/
- Follow me on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/anetaardeliankuzma/
February is an invitation to stop earning your worth and start embodying it.
Not as an idea, but as a way of living.
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By Aneta Ardelian KuzmaFor years, I believed self-love was something to earn.
After the results.
After the proving.
After the constant doing.
What I didn’t realize was that my body was keeping score, and it was exhausted.
In this solo episode, I’m inviting you into a deeper conversation about why self-love can feel uncomfortable, indulgent, or even wrong, especially for driven women, caretakers, and those who have learned to measure their worth by contribution and output.
This isn’t a mindset issue.
It’s a nervous system response.
If you can offer compassion to everyone else but struggle to extend it inward, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are not broken. You’ve been conditioned. And that conditioning can be unlearned.
In this episode, I explore:
- Why self-love often feels selfish when your worth has been tied to productivity
- How chronic overgiving registers as a threat in the nervous system
- The difference between self-care and self-love, and why one without the other keeps us stuck
- What self-love actually looks like in everyday life, not in grand gestures
- How tending to yourself creates a ripple effect in how you serve, lead, and live
Key Takeaways:
- Self-love is not indulgence. It is a form of survival and self-trust.
- Pushing through exhaustion isn’t strength. It’s self-abandonment.
- Self-care is an external action. Self-love is an internal relationship.
- Rest does not need to be earned. Your existence is enough.
- When you give from fullness instead of depletion, your impact deepens naturally.
Take a quiet moment and ask yourself:
- What am I needing right now, physically or emotionally?
- Where in my life am I overriding my own signals to keep going?
- What would it look like to offer myself the same compassion I give others today?
You don’t need to fix the answers. Just notice them. Awareness is the first act of self-love.
Resources & Links:- Show Notes: https://akuzmagroup.com/podcast/selfcareforhighperformers
- Free Daily Checklist - https://akuzmagroup.com/daily-routines
- Width of Life Assessment (free) - https://akuzmagroup.com/livethewidthassessment
- Complimentary Clarity Calls - https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19301826&appointmentType=39242213
- Follow me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/anetakuzmacoaching/
- Follow me on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/anetaardeliankuzma/
February is an invitation to stop earning your worth and start embodying it.
Not as an idea, but as a way of living.