This episode explores the psychological foundation of the self—the mental image we hold of who we are. It explains self-concept as a collection of beliefs, traits, and values that shape identity, emphasizing that it’s not fixed but continuously evolving through experience and relationships. Psychology distinguishes between the actual self (who we think we are), the ideal self (who we want to be), and the ought self (who we think we should be). The harmony or conflict between these selves greatly influences emotional well-being.

Drawing from Erik Erikson’s stages of development, the episode traces how identity forms across life, particularly during adolescence, when individuals question who they are and who they wish to become. It also introduces Cooley’s “looking-glass self”, explaining how we see ourselves through others’ reactions—how praise, criticism, and acceptance act as mirrors reflecting our worth.

The discussion explores the multiple dimensions of identity—individual, relational, and collective—and how culture shapes whether we define ourselves independently or through community and belonging. It highlights the role of self-esteem and self-compassion in psychological health, drawing on Carl Rogers’ belief that true growth begins with self-acceptance.

Finally, it examines modern challenges, such as social media’s influence on the curated self, where comparison and external validation distort authenticity. The episode concludes that the self is not a fixed entity but an evolving narrative—one we author daily through awareness, choice, and growth.