Today I Learned that self control is attractive. I remember I was talking to this girl with the goal of just getting to know her more. I had walked over and introduced myself and asked if I could giver her my number. She said yes. After texting her for a few minutes I grew dissinterested because I was just getting one word replies. I kept seeing this girl around campus and I got the hint that she wanted to still continue talk. So the next time I saw her I made the effort to sit by her in the computer lab and really see if we were compatible. I realized upon sitting down and talking to her that she had poor self control. With a couple minutes in the conversation she started talking about how much she loved sex. She went on about how she was open to the idea of just messing around. She then went on to talk about how she ate so much on a vacation and gained 10 pounds. The coup de grace for me was when I realized that this girl couldn’t stop talking to save her life. I was turned off. I was viscerally disgusted. I knew that if I were to get involved with this girl I would basically have to be her parent. She was young. So I could understand the reason for her poor level of self control. I’ve been there too. I’m still there in a lot of ways. Doing this podcast has made me a motor mouth. But there is something in me that quelled the flame of initial attraction. I think it’s because I know for a fact that poor self control leads to poor decisions. Poor decisions leads to a shitty life. A shitty life leads to unhappiness. That is something I’m spending every second of the day working against. A shitty life in my humble opinion is a wasted life. That experience taught me that self control is attractive on the dating market. A person who can keep themselves self contained is a person your comfortable with. A person who knows how to regulate their emotions to a high level is somebody I want to be. Having poor self control is giving into instant gratification. It spurs bad habits like yelling, spiteful behavior, and contempt. All things that kill a relationship. It’s tough though. You have to exert self control in public all the time. So when somebody makes you feel comfortable you see that as a chance to let loose. To really be yourself. But it has to be measured. If one person in the relationship has a high level of self control the other person will just copy them. But if both people have poor self control then the relationship is doomed from the start. Increasing my self control has been difficult. But I find that mediating is a big help. I should only really let loose are truly be myself when I engage in my hobbies. That’s when there is no repercussions. That’s where I can channel all my enthusiasm.