Hey, ladies. You are in the right place if you are looking for mindset inspiration to help you glow up and show up as the very best version of yourself. This is the Ashlee Jaine show and I am your host and guide Ashlee Jaine sharing advice and actionable tips on how to help you become the very best version of yourself. Now, in today's episode, we are going to be discussing things that I know each and every single one of you ladies can relate to on a very personal level. And this is probably one of the most important podcast episodes that I have recorded this far because there are so many truth bombs that I'm about to drop and hopefully so many golden nuggets and takeaways that you can really just apply to your life to have this amazing paradigm and perspective shift, if you will, to help you show up and be the very best you that you can be and each and every single situation you experience in life. Ok, so we are going to be talking about self image, self-worth, insecurities and self-doubt. I know those last two are things that you ladies are all too familiar with. Believe me, I've been there. In fact, I'm still there. I think we would be lying to ourselves if we said that we didn't experience self-doubt and insecurities on a semi consistent basis. But as often as we experience them, it is our job to figure out how to overcome them, to figure out how to not let it paralyze us from accomplishing the things that we want to accomplish in life and being the person that we want to be.

So with all of that said, we are going to be discussing the correlation between self-image and self-worth when it comes to us and our lives and our potential and all of the greatness that we can and should be working to become. Now there are a few aspects to this because of course, we always have internal and external self image, right? We always worry about our physical appearance just as much as we worry about what's going on in our mind, what we did, what we said, how we could have done differently, yada yada yada. I think women are like notorious for overanalyzing. I don't know about you, ladies, but I know that there have definitely been times in my life where I have taken the teeniest, tiniest of situations or conversations and overanalyze them to death, broken them down, trying to figure out how I could have been more confident, how I could have been more clear, whatever it may be, insert x, y or Z of your feelings here, because I know that we can all relate to that. We've all done that. It's like one of our curses as being a woman. So anyways, what we're going to be discussing is our self image and how it correlates and how it equates to our self-worth.

Now, coming from a woman who really used to have a lot of insecurities, a lot of self-doubt, a lot of just negative questioning, I guess, if you will. In my mind, there were a lot of roadblocks and things that I had to overcome and to get past to get to where I'm at today and to really see my potential and see me for the person that I can be rather than the person that I was in that moment. And so I'm bringing this to you. From my previous life experience, from being in a place that was dark, that was negative, that was definitely not anything that helped me reach my potential. It hindered me in a lot of ways, actually. But we are going to be talking about this on a very personal level. This is not me just giving advice. This is me sharing what I've been through and how it can really affect you if you resonate with this at all. So the way that we perceive our self, our self image is really impactful in the person that we want to become. And I'm even going to share some insightful, actionable tips at the end, because you all know that I love giving some sort of actionable takeaway that you can start implementing into your life to become the best version of yourself.

But with that said, back to what I was sharing. So whether it is our self-image as it pertains to our outer appearance or our self doubts as it pertains to our personality or our actions or whatever it may be, the way that we perceive ourselves is really can have a positive or negative. Impact on our self-worth. So let me give you an example. Have you ever been in a situation? Maybe you're just having a really off day, maybe you're on your period, you're bloated and you just feel so ugly, you just feel so blessed. You are like feeling very unsexy, but of course, your husband's like, Oh my gosh, you're beautiful and hugging and kissing you and and being like, super nice and super genuine and you're like, No, get off of me. I'm disgusting. Like that interaction, right? There is a great example of how your self-image is affecting your self-worth. In that scenario, in your marriage, you are pushing your husband away. You are telling him, No, you were wrong. I am not beautiful. Why would you ever want to love me? I'm just being dramatic here. This is just for show. But you were sending all of these signals to your husband, therefore diminishing any sort of affection that he is wanting to give you. And in that exchange, in that interaction, you are lessening the relationship, the positive interaction and the positive relationship in that moment.

So think about how you can apply that example, that scenario to every single aspect of your life, because I guarantee you will come up with so many times, so many examples of when that has happened to you. Or maybe you're wearing this outfit and you absolutely hate it, but people are complimenting you on it and you're like, No, this doesn't really work for me. This doesn't look good on me. I feel like I don't, you know, I just don't wear this. Well, whatever it may be, when somebody is trying to compliment you rather than thinking you, you are diminishing their compliment, you are diminishing that positive experience in that interaction or in that relationship or friendship or whatever it may be. So there is that aspect of it, but there is also the self-doubt and the insecurities that stem from within, from things that we say and things that we do as well. If you are spending all of your time questioning how you could have or should have or would have said something differently in a conversation, maybe it was an argument with your husband, or maybe you had a conversation with a coworker, or you felt like you came across as maybe really petty or really selfish or whatever it may be. If you're sitting there and you're spending those moments and minutes probably thinking about how you could have and should have and would have done things differently, rather than showing up as the confident human being that you are in future interactions.

You are essentially diminishing your self-worth because you, how you see yourself is how the world is going to see you. And you can't work towards becoming the best version of yourself. You can't work towards reaching your potential if you are too busy overanalyzing, doubting or having some sort of negative self-image. So even on the days when you feel like maybe you slipped up, maybe you said something you shouldn't have. Maybe you don't look your best. Even on those days. I would invite you to change that thought process or that thought pattern, because again, we all have these self-doubts in these insecurities, but it is our job to change them. So I would invite you to think the opposite of yourself like, oh, I, you know, came across this really bitchy in that conversation and you tell yourself, You know what? You are a genuine person. You may or may not have said something that was offhanded and moving forward, you are going to show whoever that was with the utmost respect and conversation does not matter. You can apply this to any example in your life, but doing this is really going to impact how people perceive you as well. So if you're showing up and you are feeling so sexy, you're feeling so beautiful and your husband's like, Oh my gosh, I love you, you're so beautiful.

You are going to be like, Thank you so much, babe. Like, I really appreciate you saying that, you know, I love the way this dress fits me or whatever it may be, and you are actually helping and nurturing that relationship and that interaction. So think about it in all regards of life, whether it is with friends, whether it is with coworkers, whether it is with your husband, whether it is just something that doesn't involve anybody else at all. And it solely involves you think about how you think about yourself, think about how you think about yourself. That's kind of funny, but really just sit there and think about how you think about yourself in that situation. Do you think of yourself as showing up as confident? Do you think of yourself as showing up as bold? Maybe you're in a new social interaction and you are trying to meet new friends? Are you showing up as receptive to, you know, their conversations? Are you being engaging? Are you asking questions, are you going to learn them all of these things you need to think about and realize within yourself first before you can show up in the way that you want to show up in that situation and that scenario in that conversation and whatever it may be in life.

So your self-image, how you perceive yourself really does impact everything around you. It impacts so much more than I could ever even go into detail on here in this podcast episode. But I would encourage you to really just analyze and maybe even jot down like how you think about yourself now. But with that said, here's your actionable tip, and this is your homework and your takeaway. For this podcast episode, I would really encourage you and challenge you to think about the person that you want to be. This is one of the best exercises that I have incorporated in my life on this personal development journey, and I think every woman should do the same. So any time that I feel like I've kind of plateaued in life, or maybe I'm just not showing up as the best version of myself on a consistent basis, we all have off days. That's OK. But if I'm not doing it consistently, I stop and I think about the person that I want to be. What does the next version of Ashley look like? What does she wear? What does she say? How does she make others feel? All of these questions, and I write down in detail that person, that version of Ashley, because this gives me a very clear direction, clear image of the person that I want to be and helps me work on becoming her.

It helps guide me in the direction that I already know I want to head. So that is your homework. That is your takeaway from this podcast episode, because I really want you to see yourself as not who you are right now, or maybe not even who you were in the past, but who you are and who you are going to be. We are ever changing. We are ever evolving, and we should be always working on becoming the best version of ourselves. So I would love, love, love to see you ladies do this little exercise and really just focus on all of the great things about you, rather than letting those insecurities and self-doubt creep in and get the best of you. Don't let them hinder your potential anymore, because we all know they have in the past. It is time to embrace who you are and who you are going to be and start working your way towards her. Thank you so much for listening to this podcast episode. Ladies, I really appreciate you being here, and I would really love it if you would take a moment to give this show a five star rating. It really just helps me get the word out to other women just like you to help them glow up and show up to become the very best version of themselves. I will see you, ladies, on my next episode.