After hearing advice like “love yourself more,” I wanted to make a video about self love and some of the things that have genuinely helped me love myself more. I never set out on a self love journey or made it a goal to figure out how to love yourself.

When I think about how I’ve changed over time, I realise that I used to think self love meant becoming a better version of myself — one that didn’t feel resentment, anger, frustration, or discomfort. I thought loving yourself was about reaching a place of inner peace and contentment (which I laugh about now).

What my personal development journey has shown me is that self love isn’t about getting rid of the parts of yourself you struggle with. It’s not about feeling calm all the time or finally “arriving” at some healed version of yourself.

A lot of what helped me came from changing how I relate to myself as I am, even when things feel messy or uncomfortable. In this episode, I share the best self love advice I have so far — advice that isn’t simply “love yourself more,” but things I learned along the way that helped me find self love without trying to force it.

If you’re interested in mental health, personal growth, mindset, or learning how to love yourself in a way that feels more honest and realistic, I hope this episode resonates with you.