You know that weird, heavy feeling after you spend time with people you like…but walk away feeling smaller, not fuller?You replay the evening in your head on the way home:“I listened. I asked questions. I was there for them.Why do I still feel… invisible?”That’s where this episode lives.In this conversation, we don’t talk about self-worth as a cute Pinterest quote. We talk about the quiet, humiliating moments where it actually breaks:You start a sentence, someone interrupts you… and you never finish it. Again.You’re always the one asking deep questions, holding space, but nobody notices you’re bleeding out emotionally.You leave hangouts exhausted and blame your sensitivity, instead of asking whether anyone ever truly sees you there.Niki shares how she literally trained herself into the “listener” role, the one who holds everyone’s story but never gets asked back.Viki talks about growing up in a role where her worth depended on being “easy”, “low-maintenance”, “not too much” and how that programmed her to erase herself in adult relationships.We trace it back to childhood:not in a vague “inner child” way, but in very real patterns like:

• being useful instead of being known,

• being the calm one in chaotic families,

• building your identity around what others needed from you – not who you actually were.And then we ask the brutal question: Do you really have low self-worth…or did you just spend too long in rooms that never reflected your worth back?