Self care is in fact Identity care. My therapist and I went over some things that serve as self care, and they all seem unappealing or expensive. I don't exercise for me, I do it because I need my body to function as it does. I don't exercise my mind for me, but because I need it to be sharp for survival through communication. Now where my identities lie are in an invisible space. How do we care for THAT/THOSE? Through exploring, discovering and expressing our identities, we are able to heal and override beliefs that don't serve us because our behaviors start to challenge these beliefs which validate our identities.