If I had to choose one question that I would ask you to reflect on, particularly when ushering in a new year, birthday or other milestone date, it would be: what matters to you most and why? 

You likely ask yourself “what do I want”, but this question is flawed. We want and go after a lot of things that aren't necessarily linked to our authentic desires. Our wants are often heavily shaped by external influences and social norms that, over time, can suppress our deepest desires if we aren't mindful. 

But asking “what matters” and then adding the qualifier “most”, forces you to look within, identify and acknowledge only those things that would truly bring you joy (if you would nurture and express them). Wrapping it up with “and why” further pushes you to curate your responses by justifying them. 

So in this episode, I pose this question to you. I want you to take time and dig deep to uncover the answers. I'd argue that if your responses don't trigger any emotions, then you are only scratching the surface and need to go further. Because what I am asking is that you embark on a journey of self-exploration that culminates in you clarifying who you really are and how that translates to your aspirations in life. 

We live in a world of limitations. Limited time, limited money, limited energy. You shouldn’t have a scarcity mindset but you should recognize your capacity. You can not do it all (no offense to the “lean in” enthusiasts) so it is high time to narrow your focus. You may have heard me state before that humans have a natural, innate desire to grow and pursue more. So no, wanting more is not the problem (sorry fellow minimalists). 

It is completely ok to want more and from my research I've found that most people want more of three things but fall short because of a lack in three areas that are holding them back (I'll discuss this in the episode).  So as you uncover what matters most to you and why, you also need to ask yourself: 

What do I need to stop, start, keep or discard in order to pursue what matters to me most? 

What systems do I need to put in place to provide a solid foundation of structure and support? 

If it wasn't for this question I wouldn't have had the courage to risk it all so I could live a purpose-filled life. I'm doing what I do because I took this question seriously and I can truly say that, despite all the ups and downs, I've developed a deep and enduring sense of contentment as a result. It is hard for me to fully articulate this profound feeling, but my purpose is to help you experience it for yourself because it is a beautiful state of being. 

If you'd like to take your training further, I highly suggest registering for our complimentary personal development and productivity workshop, Design and Organize Your Life. 

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