"Boundaries" is a buzzword we hear all the time, but very few of us actually know how to set them without feeling like the "bad guy."If you constantly feel exhausted by other people's demands, if you say "yes" when you really mean "no," or if you feel resentful towards the people you love—you don't have a connection problem, you have a boundary problem.In this episode, we debunk the myth that boundaries are "selfish" or "mean." Instead, we look at them as the essential fence that keeps your garden safe. We explore why we are so afraid to set them and give you the specific scripts to start doing it today.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN: ✅ The Definition: Why boundaries are not walls to keep people out, but gates to keep you safe. ✅ The "Nice Person" Trap: How people-pleasing destroys intimacy rather than building it. ✅ Types of Boundaries: Physical, Emotional, Time, and Energy boundaries explained. ✅ The Guilt Gap: How to handle that terrible feeling in your stomach right after you say "No." ✅ Scripts: Exact phrases you can use to set a boundary firmly but kindly.SAY HELLO & GET MORE TOOLS 🛠️ DOWNLOAD THE APP: https://yourjourneyyourtools.app💻 EXPLORE THE WEBSITE: https://www.yourjourneyyourtools.com☕ SUPPORT THE SHOW: https://ko-fi.com/yourjourneyyourtoolsTIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Introduction: Why We Are Terrified of Boundaries 03:15 - What a Boundary Actually Is (Walls vs. Gates) 07:45 - Signs You Have Poor Boundaries (Resentment & Burnout) 12:30 - The 4 Main Types of Boundaries 16:50 - "The Guilt Gap": Managing the Aftermath 20:15 - Scripts & Tools: How to Say "No" 24:00 - Summary & Next Week: Healthy Conflict ResolutionIf you found value in this episode, please like the video and subscribe to the channel. It makes a huge difference and helps these tools reach more people.💬 Leave a comment below: What is the hardest boundary for you to set? Is it with family, work, or your partner?