Are you surrendering or settling?

Are you saying, “Ok I can work with this?” or “Wake me up in ten years?”

Are you seeing the distinction?  You could be in a true place of surrender and still work your love handles off to make things better.  It just means you’re not going to bang your head against any walls that might crop up along the way.  You are laboring toward outcomes without being attached to them. The concept is simple, but also terribly complex.

Oliver Wendell Holmes once wrote, “I don’t give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but I would die for the simplicity on the other side of complexity.”  I love that so much.

Okay Summer, now you’ve really hopped on the obtuse bus .  I thought you were going to say something useful about marriage- like maybe how I can get my husband to stop barking at my teenagers.

Just hear me out.  We'll get there.

Message Summer Cox, Wife Coach, here.

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