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Sex Addiction: Step Four of the Twelve Steps | Dr. Doug Weiss
"For the 12 Steps workbook: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/steps-to-freedom-guide/
For the 101 Freedom Exercises Book: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/101-freedom-exercises-book/
Sex addiction has been a rampant issue for millions of people in our society. However, many have been helped through the 12 Steps of the recovery process, both the addict and their spouse, and it can help you as well. In this video, licensed psychologist and national author, Dr. Doug Weiss, discusses Step Four, which is about having made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Some people who go through the steps get stuck doing the 123 shuffle. They do the first 3 steps but don't move pass them. Step 4 is different because it demands work, while the first three someone may do only hypothetically.
With Step 4, it's about searching internally of your own story, heart, motives, and past. Whatever you find, you should aim to be willing to look at it, to be fearless of the truth (both good and bad). This is about rigorous honesty that you will face and not run from, both the choices and the consequences.
With the inventory you create, it will reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly in your life. With the good, it's the choices you made that were great and the good you did for yourself and others.
The bad column of the inventory lists the decisions that weren't the best and had negative consequences for you and those around you. However, even if you made bad decisions, it doesn't mean you're bad.
With the ugly, that's the stuff that happened to you that you had no control over, things that impacted your life for the worse whether a bad family of origin, abuse, a car accident that happened to you, etc. These things may have impacted the decisions you make.
This step is where people sometimes run because they don't want to look in the mirror and face the bad and ugly in their life. However, recovery is being honest with yourself, admitting you made mistakes, and taking time to do the work. Don't delay this. I'm proud that you got this far, but now is the time to pick up the pace and do actual work that can lead to you living a better life.
For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/counseling/
For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/store/
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.
You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/
by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at [email protected]"
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By Dr Doug Weiss"For the 12 Steps workbook: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/steps-to-freedom-guide/
For the 101 Freedom Exercises Book: https://www.drdougweiss.com/product/101-freedom-exercises-book/
Sex addiction has been a rampant issue for millions of people in our society. However, many have been helped through the 12 Steps of the recovery process, both the addict and their spouse, and it can help you as well. In this video, licensed psychologist and national author, Dr. Doug Weiss, discusses Step Four, which is about having made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Some people who go through the steps get stuck doing the 123 shuffle. They do the first 3 steps but don't move pass them. Step 4 is different because it demands work, while the first three someone may do only hypothetically.
With Step 4, it's about searching internally of your own story, heart, motives, and past. Whatever you find, you should aim to be willing to look at it, to be fearless of the truth (both good and bad). This is about rigorous honesty that you will face and not run from, both the choices and the consequences.
With the inventory you create, it will reveal the good, the bad, and the ugly in your life. With the good, it's the choices you made that were great and the good you did for yourself and others.
The bad column of the inventory lists the decisions that weren't the best and had negative consequences for you and those around you. However, even if you made bad decisions, it doesn't mean you're bad.
With the ugly, that's the stuff that happened to you that you had no control over, things that impacted your life for the worse whether a bad family of origin, abuse, a car accident that happened to you, etc. These things may have impacted the decisions you make.
This step is where people sometimes run because they don't want to look in the mirror and face the bad and ugly in their life. However, recovery is being honest with yourself, admitting you made mistakes, and taking time to do the work. Don't delay this. I'm proud that you got this far, but now is the time to pick up the pace and do actual work that can lead to you living a better life.
For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/counseling/
For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to https://www.drdougweiss.com/store/
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.
You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, https://www.drdougweiss.com/ or on his Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss/
by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at [email protected]"