Sex at Every Size

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos who’ve recently discussed how they keep the spark alive while filming in different locations. There’s some fatphobic undertones that we discuss. Personally, Cassie is a big fan of Kelly Ripa, but it’s important to recognize problematic patterns even when people we like are perpetuating them. 

Our listener question is from a woman in a relationship with a woman this week and it's about how to handle differing sexual desires regarding length of time spent and the activity menu. 

Then we have wins of the week where Cassie talks about her love affair with America’s government teacher, Sharon McMahon (@SharonSaysSo). Sharon recently discussed banned books and used examples of porn without backing down from her stance that censorship is bad. We encourage anyone who lives in the US to pay attention to what’s going on with local public libraries and school districts in your area! 

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This Week in Fatphobia:

Kelly Ripa & Mark Consuelos

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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about Gwyneth Paltrow’s terrible podcast interview with Dr. Will Cole. We also chat briefly about our childhood favorite, Gilmore Girls and the appalling amount of fatphobia in it. 

We’re skipping a listener question this week because I'm still exhausted from last week’s question. 

Then we have wins of the week where we talk about CBS’s Survivor and the changes they have made over time in order to keep up with the changing social landscape of its audience.  

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This Week in Fatphobia:

Maintenance Phase Elizabeth Taylor 

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Cassie:
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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about The Blue Zone Diet. What is a “Blue Zone” and why is boiling down a way of eating as a path towards health problematic? 

We got on an excellent tangent about Christianity, capitalism, and other societal structures which work together to keep us from communal living. 

We’re answering a listener question about desire discrepancy between a cis/het male partner and a cis/her female partner and breaking down the mythology around men having inherently high sex drives. 

Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about finding the ice box in her mini fridge like a dork and Hailey talks about a fun parenting learning opportunity.  

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This Week in Fatphobia:

Blue Zones 

CNN Blue Zone article 

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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about the new American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines on treating children in larger bodies. 

As a little pallette cleanser we’re offering a review of That 90’s Show. We talk about how they handle sexuality and fat characters. 

We’re not having a listener question this week since we have so much to go through with the AAP guidelines.

Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about an ad on Dear Hank and John that Hank Green recorded where he very delicately talked about resolutions while avoiding leaning into diet culture. 

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This Week in Fatphobia:

American Academy of Pediatrics Guidelines 

The Daily by the New York Times 

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Cassie:
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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about an article from the New York Post titled Bye Bye Booty: Heroin chic is back. It’s bad enough for a fashion trend to be named after a drug, but to boil bodies down to trends as though we should be treating our bodies as accessories is just.. Gross and dangerous.

Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who’s feeling disconnected after years of a intense work hours which have recently shifted and how that’s impacting their sex life currently. 

Then we have wins of the week! Cassie’s 6 year old kid is trying out basketball and helped her through her anxiety about it! 

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This Week in Fatphobia:

New York Post 

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Cassie:

IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about a new report out from The New York Times on Diabetes prevention where they actually cited the environmental and life factors as necessary to preventing the disease! 

Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who’s feeling like they’re not getting what they signed up for in their intimate relationships. We talk about the concept of aftercare, altered circumstances, as well as communication. 

Then we have wins of the week! Cassie tells a funny sex story about her partner being obnoxious. Then Hailey shares a story about her realtor friend who caught a house painter having sex in a house during a showing. We’ll be expecting follow ups on this story. 

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Diabetes Prevention Article:

New York Times 

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Cassie:

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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re diving into a review of Disney’s new short Reflect. The short is about a fat ballerina and we have a lot of thoughts and feelings about this one!

Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner’s discomfort with “plastic dicks”. We break down how to determine core values around sex and sexuality in relationships and once again encourage communication in order to establish boundaries!

Then we have wins of the week! Cassie’s win is about working with her son through preschool drop offs to get him to be less aggressive during those times which leads into a conversation about raising our boys to be gentle and loving the same way we do with our daughters. 

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Reflect:

https://www.npr.org/2022/10/29/1132360615/disney-plus-sized-heroine-bianca-reflect 

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Cassie:

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About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’ve gotta talk about Taylor Swift. She had some pretty blatant fatphobia in her video released for the song Anti Hero. We talk about how she’s changed the video to remove the most blatant imagery, and discuss whether we think that was enough to address the mistake. 

Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner. It’s something we found on a Facebook page that we felt really allowed us to have a nuanced discussion around porn. We’ve tried to talk about porn on the pod in the past and that tends to be a hot-button issue for folks, so we’re hoping this brings in more layers to the ongoing conversation. 

Then we have wins of the week! Hailey’s win this week is that she cleaned the dust off all of the fans in her house & programmed her car to open her garage! Cassie’s win this week is about cleaning too! Her house is clean and she’s dedicated to keeping it clean and has been making a solid effort daily to keep clutter from piling up. For a bonus win Cassie talks about her ADHD and progress she’s making to stay focused!

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Official Taylor Swift Anti-Hero video:

https://youtu.be/b1kbLwvqugk 

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Cassie:

IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week we’re doing a solo episode with Cassie! I’m going through some of the perks that come with being a member on Patreon. The bulk of the episode goes through a blog post available to Patreon subscribers about ADHD & Eating for Stimulation. I offer commentary along the way and hope you’ll learn something both about the subject matter as well as how you can advocate against fatphobia in the way you discuss eating behaviors. 

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Healthline Article:

ADHD & Eating For Stimulation 

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Cassie:

IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities. 

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com

This week in fatphobia we’re talking about Kanye West’s recent interview with Tucker Carlson. In the interview he uses Lizzo’s body/weight to criticize the cultural move towards body & fat acceptance. Of course, he does this Ye style by getting really conspiracy theorist with it. We break down the phrasing he uses and the claims he makes highlighting the misogyny and fatphobia within them. 

Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her partner shaming her for needing/wanting to use a vibrator. We discuss the cultural expectations around orgasms and who gets to have them. We give some pointers for how this conversation could be opened up for discussion. 

Then we have wins of the week! Our win this week is a combined win about our sister reaching out for help in how to talk to her 8 year old son about sex and bodies because he’s expressed some curiosity. This conversation is a great one if you have kids especially. 

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Ye on Tucker Carlson:

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRurrgHw/  

Vulva Book:

www.thevulvagallery.com

Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect

https://www.amazon.com/Lets-About-Boundaries-Consent-Respect/dp/1925089185 

It’s Not the Stork!

It's Not the Stork! Book

Genderbreak Person

https://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2018/10/the-genderbread-person-v4/ 

Patreon:

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IG: @sexateverysize

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Cassie:

IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality. 

IG: @sexateverysize

Email: [email protected]

Cassie:
IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPC

About the hosts:

Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC

Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology where she will become a Certified Sex Therapist & contribute to the field by investigating the intersection of fatphobia and sexuality.

Hailey Rausch, MS, RDN

Hailey Rausch is a Registered Dietitian with experience in a variety of settings including clinical nutrition counseling for patients with Diabetes, diabetes during pregnancy, as well as acute and long-term care residents in skilled nursing facilities.

Music: https://www.purple-planet.com