Sex, Love & Everything In Between

Are you truly protecting yourself, or are you protecting yourself from the very life you say you want? 

In this deeply honest and expansive episode of Sex, Love and Everything In Between, Jacob and Meg sit down with Sigrid to explore the hidden armor women build to survive—and what it takes to finally soften without abandoning their power.

Sigrid gets vulnerable about the experiences that taught her it wasn't safe to trust, love, be vulnerable, or fully reveal herself. She shares how that protection eventually became hyper-independence, self-reliance, and a constant need to hold everything together—and how she eventually realized that the same armor protecting her from pain was also keeping life from fully reaching her.

Together, they unpack the difference between true softness and performative femininity, why softness actually requires a backbone, and why becoming more available to love isn't about finding the perfect person who makes you feel safe enough to open. It starts with becoming a safe home for yourself.

They also dive into the courage it takes to be fully seen in relationships, why authenticity can become the ultimate filtration process when dating, and how learning to feel discomfort instead of constantly avoiding it can completely transform the way you show up in love, leadership, pleasure, and life.

Episode Highlights
The Armor We Build: Why the strategies that once protected us can eventually become the very things keeping us from intimacy, pleasure, and connection.
Softness With a Backbone: Why true feminine softness isn't passivity, weakness, or being a doormat—and why real softness requires knowing your power, using your voice, and having your own back.
The Danger of Performative Femininity: Why femininity isn't something you perform for men, social media, or the outside world. It's about fully inhabiting yourself.
Becoming a Safe Home for Yourself: How creating internal safety gives you the courage to take up space, speak your truth, be vulnerable, and risk being fully yourself.
The Ultimate Dating Filter: Why revealing more of who you actually are can show you whether someone truly has the capacity to meet and embrace you.
Active Courage: Why becoming more vulnerable isn't about waiting until fear disappears. It's about choosing courage, feeling the sensation, and allowing yourself to be seen anyway.
Stop Waiting for the Bus: Why you don't need a devastating breakup, loss, or major life event to finally change—and why you can choose to soften your armor now.
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Hey, lovers! Welcome back to Sex, Love & Everything in Between with Jacob and Meg.


In this episode, Jacob and Meg explore some of the real challenges that come with building a relationship, growing a business, and navigating life together. From success and money to masculinity, boundaries, and intimacy, they share honest reflections on what it takes to create a partnership where both people can thrive.


They discuss how to navigate differences in success without letting comparison take over, why being a “nice guy” can sometimes mean avoiding vulnerability, and how to set boundaries without taking responsibility for everyone else's feelings.


They also dive into one of the most common relationship tensions: wanting different levels of closeness and personal space. How do you honour your own needs while still showing up for your partner? And how can time apart actually strengthen your connection?


This is a conversation about embracing individuality, communicating honestly, and learning how to love each other without expecting one person to meet every need.
Tune in for a raw and thoughtful conversation about relationships, personal growth, and creating deeper intimacy.

In this episode, Jacob and Meg explore:
Navigating success in a relationship – How to handle differences in business growth, income, and visibility without falling into comparison.
Redefining masculine and feminine roles – Letting go of expectations and discovering what genuinely works for your relationship.
The nice guy versus the asshole – How avoiding vulnerability and trying to fit into a particular role can affect intimacy.
Setting boundaries without guilt – Learning to honour your needs while allowing others to have their own feelings.
Letting go of people-pleasing – Moving away from managing other people's perceptions and expressing yourself more authentically.
Balancing closeness and personal space – Understanding why partners may have different needs for connection and alone time.
Building intimacy beyond your relationship – Why friendships and community can help take pressure off your partnership.
Making sacrifices in love – Choosing to show up for your partner, even when it means stepping outside your comfort zone.

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Hey, lovers! Welcome back to Sex, Love & Everything in Between with Jacob and Meg.

In this episode, Jacob and Meg sit down with confidence coach and host of Sex, Other, Money, Rebecca Antonucci, for a raw conversation about female desire, sex, shame, self-worth, relationships, ambition, and what it really means to stop abandoning yourself to be chosen.
They begin by exploring the power of sex as an arena for transformation, including why so many women struggle to express their desires, communicate their needs, and experience pleasure without performing for validation or connection.

From there, they dive into the “cool girl” archetype, people-pleasing, being “high maintenance,” hyper-independence, and the cost of pretending you don't want what you actually want.

Rebecca also shares her own journey of confronting shame, leaving comfort zones, and realizing that some of the goals she was chasing were borrowed desires rather than what her heart genuinely wanted.
They explore what happens when women stop making their worth dependent on relationships, money, business success, or external validation—and instead begin building their lives around their authentic desires.

WE COVER:
[00:00:42] Reclaiming Your Power & Desires
 Rebecca shares her work helping women reclaim their power from shame, wounds, and the patterns holding them back.
[00:01:21] Sex as an Arena for Transformation
 Why learning to express your desires in the bedroom can transform how you show up everywhere else in life.
[00:02:33] Shame, Sex & Authentic Expression
 Why women can struggle to communicate their desires, boundaries, and needs in relationships.
[00:05:02] Performing for Validation Instead of Pleasure
 Meg reflects on realizing she had been seeking validation and wanting to be chosen rather than orienting toward her own pleasure.
[00:06:16] Would You Rather Lose the Connection or Lose Yourself?
 Why staying true to yourself may require risking the connection.
[00:07:15] When Women Don't Know There Is Another Way
 Stories from women who had never been taught to think about their own pleasure or desires in sex.
[00:08:14] Choosing Your Desires in Long-Term Relationships
 The vulnerability of speaking your truth after years of participating in the same relationship dynamic.
[00:11:40] The Things We Try to Keep Buried
 Rebecca shares her experience with shame and what happened when she finally gave it words.
[00:12:22] The Cave You Fear Holds the Treasure You Seek
 Why facing the things we avoid can create freedom.
[00:14:49] Courage Is Part of the Process
 Why you cannot create a liberated life without repeatedly choosing courage and moving through discomfort.
[00:19:18] Leaving Comfort Zones
 Rebecca shares her move to Bali and what happened when an exciting new life eventually became another comfort zone.
[00:21:05] Borrowed Desires vs. Authentic Desires
 How social media can shape the life women think they should want—and how to come back to what is actually true for you.
[00:25:20] When Business Success Becomes Your Identity
 Meg shares how money and business performance once became deeply connected to her sense of worth.
[00:29:32] Why High-Achieving Women Can Struggle to Receive
 Rebecca explores what happens when a woman is so self-sufficient that there is little room for a partner to support her.
[00:35:49] Softness, Vulnerability & Letting Yourself Be Held
 A conversation about feminine softness, sensitivity, and the power of allowing yourself to receive support.
[00:36:30] You Don't Have to Be Just One Version of Yourself
 Why women don't need to choose between being ambitious, independent, soft, sensitive, or vulnerable.
[00:39:15] The Power of Being “High Maintenance”
 What owning your needs, preferences, standards, and desires can reveal about your self-worth.
[00:40:18] The Cost of Being the “Pick Me”
 Why abandoning your needs to be chosen can create bigger problems later in a relationship.
[00:43:18] Stop Playing the Cool Girl
 How unexpressed desires and trying to be easygoing can disconnect you from yourself.
[00:47:18] Your Desires Desire You
 Rebecca talks about claiming your desires instead of hiding them out of shame, fear, or embarrassment.
[00:50:16] Start Living as the Woman You Want to Become
 How to identify the woman behind your desires and begin aligning your choices with her.
[00:52:08] What If You Jump and the Net Doesn't Appear?
 Why taking the leap can still be worth it even when the outcome isn't guaranteed.
[00:52:34] One Life. What Do You Actually Want?
 Rebecca's closing invitation to get hungry for your own life and stop living according to someone else's rules.

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Hey, lovers! Welcome back to Sex, Love & Everything in Between with Jacob and Meg.

In this episode, Jacob and Meg get real about what it takes to build a meaningful life while running businesses, raising a child, nurturing a relationship, and still making space for themselves.

They open with a playful conversation about desire, attraction, and how small moments of polarity and play can feed a relationship. From there, they explore the bigger question: how do you stay connected to your partner, family, and purpose when life is full?

This episode gives a behind-the-scenes look at navigating entrepreneurship and parenthood—including seasons of overwhelm, weekly check-ins, protecting the family nervous system, creating boundaries around work, and learning when to say no.

They also unpack sacrifice as a way of making something sacred and how entering a new season of life often requires letting go of old stories, identities, habits, and ways of doing things.

For ambitious parents and entrepreneurs, Jacob and Meg share what has helped them create more structure and support: prioritizing their “first family,” building strong community, creating boundaries with technology, accepting help, and designing a life where work, parenting, partnership, and purpose can coexist.

Meg also shares her experience of becoming a mother while continuing to grow her business—and why motherhood doesn't necessarily mean giving up ambition. Sometimes, it can become fuel for an even deeper mission.

This is an honest conversation about love, parenting, entrepreneurship, ambition, sacrifice, support, boundaries, and consciously designing the life you actually want.

WE COVER:
[00:00:31] Desire, Play & Attraction
A playful conversation about unexpected attraction, asking for what you desire, and bringing more play into relationships.
[00:07:15] Beyond Masculine & Feminine Labels
Why Jacob and Meg don't try to force masculine and feminine roles onto their relationship.
[00:12:04] The Reality of Being Visionaries & Parents
What it looks like to run businesses, raise a child, and prioritize your relationship.
[00:13:26] When Everything Feels Like Too Much
How difficult seasons in business, parenting, and relationship can compound into a breakdown that leads to a breakthrough.
[00:15:27] The Power of a Weekly Check-In
Why planning the week together and asking what each person needs can change everything.
[00:16:32] Your Three Families
The first family is under your roof, the second is your inner circle, and the third is your wider community.
[00:17:31] Protecting Your Family's Nervous System
Why time at home, simple rhythms, and knowing when to say no are essential.
[00:21:14] Sacrifice Means Making Sacred
Reframing sacrifice as consciously choosing what matters most.
[00:25:25] You Can't Take Everything Into the Next Season
Growth requires letting go of old identities, stories, habits, and ways of living.
[00:26:26] Letting Go of the “Two and a Half Days” Story
Meg shares a business lesson about releasing rigid expectations around how much she “should” work as a mother.
[00:29:34] Growing Beyond the Way You've Always Worked
Jacob discusses building a group-based men's academy and moving from one-on-one coaching toward greater authority and teaching.
[00:31:14] When Giving Too Much Costs the Home
Why over-serving clients and community can pull energy away from your family.
[00:33:04] Containment Creates Potency
How boundaries around phones, social media, work, and parenting help them become more present.
[00:36:14] Motherhood & Entrepreneurship
Meg reflects on becoming a mother while continuing to build her business.
[00:39:03] You Don't Have to Choose Between Motherhood & Ambition
Why women don't necessarily have to choose between being present mothers and pursuing meaningful work.
[00:41:19] Bring Your Child Into the Journey
Why parenthood doesn't have to mean putting your mission on hold.
[00:42:41] You Need a Village
The importance of partners, family, friends, and support when building a business and raising a child.
[00:43:27] Learning to Receive Support
Why accepting help isn't weakness and how receiving can create meaning for others.
[00:45:29] Learning to Be Nourished
Meg speaks about hyper-independence, receiving, and creating a nourished family nervous system.
[00:46:25] Designing Their Childcare Support
How Jacob and Meg evolved their approach to childcare as their family and businesses grew.
[00:50:15] We're Done With the Survival Shit
Why conscious sacrifices and the right support can help families thrive.
[00:54:19] Deep Roots & Infrastructure
Why building the right infrastructure matters when you're parenting and building a big vision.

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Hey, lovers! Welcome back to Sex, Love & Everything in Between with Jacob and Meg.

In this episode, we’re joined by men’s work facilitator and teacher Ryan Moresby- White for a deeply honest conversation about healing our wounded parts, becoming emotionally safe, and learning how to truly show up in relationship.

Ryan shares why personal development can remain intellectual when childhood wounds are still running the show. We explore what it means to “heal the boy,” how relationships mirror our unresolved wounds, and why grieving what we didn’t receive as children can be essential to healing.

We talk about brotherhood, why men need other men for support and accountability, and how community can help men stay connected to their purpose without losing themselves in partnership.
This is a raw, vulnerable conversation about men, women, love, safety, boundaries, purpose, and the work it takes to become more fully yourself.

Grab a coffee, settle in, and let's get into it. Enjoy the episode!

[00:00:19] Meet Ryan Moresby-White
Ryan joins Jacob and Meg to discuss his work helping men heal through gentleness, safety, and deep inner work.
[00:03:19] Why Men Need to Heal the Boy
Why personal development isn't enough when childhood wounds remain underneath the surface.
[00:05:51] When Your Partner Reveals Your Wounds
How intimate relationships expose unresolved childhood patterns.
[00:08:30] Grieving What You Didn't Receive
Exploring perceived value, performing for love, and the grief underneath over-giving.
[00:10:12] Becoming a Safe Man
How meeting your own wounds impacts your partner, family, children, and community.
[00:13:00] Purpose, Mission & Men's Work
Why men can struggle to discover their purpose when they've never felt safe enough to ask what they truly want.
[00:15:47] The Little Boy in Relationship
How childhood emotional blueprints can become activated when we open our hearts.
[00:17:03] You Can't Hold Her Until You Can Hold Yourself
Learning to hold your own emotions while remaining present with your partner.
[00:19:28] Losing Yourself in a Relationship
How people can lose their identity, mission, and purpose by becoming overly intertwined with a partner.
[00:22:21] The Nice Guy Pattern
Jacob shares his experience of carrying everyone else's burdens and learning to develop a stronger sense of self.
[00:24:26] Needing Her vs. Choosing Her
Why being willing to lose a relationship creates the freedom to genuinely choose your partner.
[00:25:49] When a Man Finds His Backbone
Why boundaries and the ability to say no can actually create greater safety in a relationship.
[00:27:39] The Sacrifice in Love
The Me → You → We framework and why devotion to yourself can deepen devotion to your relationship.
[00:29:53] The Pressure to Be the Perfect Masculine Man
Ryan discusses masculine expectations and why he refuses to become the “father” a partner may unconsciously seek.
[00:31:09] Trust Your Nervous System
Why Ryan pays attention to how his nervous system feels around someone—not just whether they check the right boxes.
[00:34:30] The Cost of Being the Nice Guy
How avoiding someone's disappointment can prevent them from receiving the truth they need.
[00:35:23] Choosing Yourself in the Hard Moments
Jacob shares a turning point that came from choosing his own path and attending a men's retreat.
[00:38:16] A Safe Man Isn't a Convenient Man
Why emotional safety doesn't mean being agreeable or giving someone everything they want.
[00:41:00] What Do Men Actually Need From Women?
Ryan explores why men crave appreciation, acknowledgment, and being invited into their greatness.
[00:45:30] Warm Milk vs. Constant Criticism
Why men need both challenge and nourishment—and why constant criticism can shut down vulnerability.
[00:48:58] The Real Sign of an Emotionally Safe Man
Emotional safety isn't perfection; it's the willingness to go inward and take responsibility for your inner world.
[00:50:27] Boundaries Are Self-Respect
Why being the “container” doesn't mean taking responsibility for everyone else's emotions.
[00:53:23] What Can a Woman Do If She Wants Her Man to Do the Work?
Why invitation is often more powerful than forcing a man into personal development.
[00:57:38] Why Men Need Men
The importance of brotherhood, counsel, accountability, and trusted men who can provide an honest integrity check.
[01:00:01] The Nervous System of Brotherhood
How brotherhood can give men another foundation of safety and strength beyond their romantic relationship.
[01:00:34] “SS Heal the Boy”
A hilarious closing metaphor for becoming more resourced through brotherhood.

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Are you truly capable of holding two truths in a relationship, or does your defensiveness deny your partner the chance to be seen? In this real, raw, and deeply personal episode of Sex, Love and Everything In Between, Jacob and Meg get incredibly vulnerable about the uncomfortable reality of hitting your absolute limit in long-term partnership.

Spoiler alert: true intimacy isn't about never feeling resentful or overwhelmed. It is built in the micro-moments of tension—when your nervous system is completely fried, and every bone in your body wants to blame your partner for your lack of boundaries. Meg shares a raw story about a jam-packed weekend of family celebrations that pushed her capacity to the absolute edge, and the deep internal work it took to own her choices instead of projecting her resentment onto Jacob.

They also tackle the concept of "nervous system capacity," explaining why forcing a partner to relate when they are entirely unresourced isn't connection—it's a recipe for disaster. If you are tired of the right/wrong game and want to step into a new paradigm of deep empathy and honoring two truths at once, this episode will change the way you relate.

Episode Highlights

• The Illusion of the Perfect Response: Why bringing defensiveness into a conflict actively denies your partner the opportunity to be seen and validated in their feelings.
• Honoring Two Truths: The practice of acknowledging your partner's experience, even when it completely pushes up against your own perception of yourself.
• Show Me Your Capacity: Understanding how your nervous system capacity directly reflects your ability to relate to your partner.
• Meg’s Moment of Tension: Unpacking a recent, chaotic weekend filled with a five-year-old's birthday, twin nephews, and a baby shower to reveal the deeper truth of capacity and resentment.
• The Danger of Being Unresourced: What happens when you try to communicate and connect when you are completely depleted, and why it can feel like the walls are closing in.
• Unconditional Ownership: The absolute power of taking deep accountability for the commitments you made, rather than blaming your partner when you feel overwhelmed.

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What happens when we stop playing "middle C" on our emotional keyboard and finally embrace the full, wild range of our aliveness?

In this deeply transformative episode, Meg travels to New York for an intimate, in-person conversation with the legendary Regina (aka Mama Gena)—teacher, visionary, and author of the life-changing book Pussy: A Reclamation and her newest release, On Our Knees.

Mama Gena breaks down the radical act of reclaiming the word "pussy" and explains why women are the greatest untapped natural resource on the planet. Together, they explore how to stop avoiding our pain and instead use our deepest grief, frustration, and "on our knees" moments as portals to immense erotic power. Mama Gena even walks Meg through a real-time "swamping" practice (truth tantrum included!) to process the grief of weaning her son.

Whether you are navigating a massive life rupture, wanting to stay erotically alive as you age, or just looking to bring the magic of flirtation back into your daily routine, this episode is a beautiful invitation to surrender to the feminine.

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In this episode, we explore:

• The life-changing magic of reading Pussy: A Reclamation in public spaces and overcoming the shame attached to our bodies.
• Why reclaiming the specific word "pussy" (and not just anatomical terms or nicknames) acts as a light switch for a woman's sensuality.
• The ancient, pre-patriarchal history of revering the feminine and honoring she who gives life.
• Breaking out of the "I'm fine" trap and learning to play all 88 keys of your emotional keyboard.
• The "On Our Knees" Practice: Mama Gena guides Meg through a live "swamping" truth tantrum to transmute the grief of weaning her son into erotic life force.
• Mama Gena’s personal story of losing her partner, Titus, and how moving her grief through dance scaled her power and her company.
• Deep surrender: The intuitive download that led Mama Gena to close her multi-million dollar mastery program right before COVID to support her daughter.
• Why we must learn to fall ridiculously, erotically in love with our descent and our darkness.
• Aging with erotic aliveness and the art of flirtation (shoutout to Mama Gena's 101-year-old mother!).

Resources & Links:

• Read the Books: Grab your copy of [Pussy: A Reclamation] and Mama Gena’s newest book, [On Our Knees] at your favorite local bookstore or online.
• Follow Mama Gena: Catch her on Instagram @mamagena
• Join the Mailing List: Read Mama Gena's weekly blogs at mamagenas.com
• Live Event: Tune into the global livestream for the On Our Knees book launch at the House of Yes in Brooklyn on August 25th!

Are you truly devoted to intimacy, or are you just devoted to being right? In this fiery and deeply personal episode of Sex, Love and Everything In Between, Jacob and Meg get incredibly real about the uncomfortable, ego-obliterating reality of long-term partnership.

Spoiler alert: true intimacy isn't about finding a "perfect" partner who never triggers you. It is built in the micro-moments of tension—when every bone in your body wants to withhold love, keep score, and wait for them to apologize first. Meg shares a raw story about projecting her own lack of self-care onto Jacob, and the internal work it took to drop her defenses and walk back into the room with an open heart.

They also tackle the concept of "emotional foreplay" for men, explaining why forcing a partner with a shut-down nervous system to process emotions at your pace isn't connection. It's self-serving. If you are tired of playing the right/wrong game and want to step into a new paradigm of sacred reciprocity and true devotion, this episode will change the way you relate.

Episode Highlights

• The Illusion of the Perfect Partner: Why waiting for your partner to do everything right so you can finally relax is a recipe for deep control, not deep love.
• Devotion to Ego vs. Devotion to Intimacy: How to catch yourself in the micro-moments when you are withholding love, and the practice of opening your heart even when you want to be right.
• Meg’s Moment of Tension: Unpacking a recent argument over a camping trip to reveal the deeper truth of self-abandonment and unexpressed desires.
• The Power of Self-Inquiry: Why surrendering your "story" of the argument is required to drop into the deeper truth of your relationship.
• Emotional Foreplay for Men: Understanding how to attune to your partner’s nervous system. Why men often need non-verbal emotional foreplay (like physical touch) the same way women often need sexual foreplay.
• The Danger of Forced Vulnerability: Why demanding your partner to "just open up" when their nervous system is in shutdown mode is a violation of their safety.
• Unconditional Ownership: The absolute power of taking deep accountability for your projections without expecting a single thing in return.

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The TRUTH About the Manosphere, Toxic Masculinity, and True Masculine Leadership

Welcome back lovers! In this spicy and deeply raw episode of Sex, Love and Everything In Between, we are unpacking the cultural phenomenon of the "Manosphere" and the modern crisis of toxic masculinity.

After watching a recent documentary on the topic, we had to take the conversation to the mics. We explore the stark difference between immature, fear-based control and mature, service-led masculine leadership. Why are so many men terrified of vulnerability? Why does our culture push the narrative that it isn't safe for men to feel?

We dive deep into the psychology of the "little boy" searching for his father's validation through money, status, and control, and how this spiritual dehydration is impacting relationships, women, and the next generation of young boys. Most importantly, Jacob shares his profound insights from men's work, highlighting the incredible healing power of emotional safety, brotherhood, and bringing deep presence back into the home.

If you are a man wanting to step into your true power, a woman desiring deep leadership in partnership, or a parent raising boys in today's world—this episode is for you.

What We Cover:

• The dangerous illusion of the "Manosphere" and red-pill culture.
• True masculine leadership vs. dictatorship in relationships.
• Why suppressing emotions destroys intimacy and true connection.
• The deep "spiritual dehydration" driving the pursuit of money, cars, and status.
• How fathers can protect young boys and heal the culture by simply being present.

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Episode Highlights & Key Takeaways:

• [00:00 - 03:00] Intro & Catching Up: Jacob and Meg check in from "cloud nine," talking about their current spiritual era, before diving into the heavy topic of the day: the manosphere and toxic masculinity.
• [03:00 - 07:00] The Illusion of Leadership: Meg breaks down a triggering quote from the manosphere, explaining why a man acting like a "dictator" is not the true masculine leadership that women actually yearn for. Mature leadership is in service to a partner's nervous system.
• [07:00 - 11:30] Leading with Fear vs. Connection: Jacob explains how the inability to be vulnerable causes men to lead with fear and control. We discuss the lack of relational attunement and the "frenetic feminine energy" of constantly needing to be stimulated.
• [11:30 - 17:30] The Myth of the Stoic Man: Should men hide their emotions from their partners? Jacob explains the difference between emotional dumping and true emotional containment. We discuss the vital importance of men having a safe brotherhood to process decades of pain so they can bring tenderness back to their relationships.
• [17:30 - 24:00] Terrified of Love & The "Daddy" Wound: Jacob dissects how a lack of emotional safety leads men to chase material wealth, cars, and status. We explore how these outward displays of dominance are often just a wounded little boy begging for a father's validation and attention.
• [24:00 - 35:00] Changing the Culture of Men: How do we shift away from this? It starts with presence. Jacob shares beautiful stories from his men's work retreats and everyday life, emphasizing that men don't need to be hardened—they need to be seen, held, and allowed to have emotional range.
• [35:00 - 45:30] Protecting the Next Generation: The conversation turns to parenting. Meg and Jacob discuss the critical role of the father's presence in the home to protect the innocence of young boys. Why true success isn't about working yourself to the bone for material things, but serving at the "sacred altar" of your dinner table.
• [45:30 - End] Outro & Call to Action: Final thoughts on finding freedom in connection rather than consumption. Don't forget to subscribe and follow Jacob and Meg on Instagram!

Hey lovers! We are so excited to share this incredibly potent conversation with the one and only Preston Smiles. Preston is a devoted husband, a father of four, a profound teacher, and a massive pillar in the personal development and men's work space.

In this episode, we dive deep into the messy, beautiful, and deeply spiritual practice of long-term partnership and parenthood. Preston opens up about his personal journey—from facing a life-altering heart condition at 25 to dedicating his life to service—and how that shaped the way he shows up for his family today.

We explore what it really means to hold boundaries with children through deep love and containment, why our partners trigger our hidden "outlawed parts," and how true relationships require us to burn down our fantasies of the "happily ever after" to build something real. We also have a deeply moving conversation about honoring the feminine, the profound biological journey women go through, and why our culture’s fear of aging is robbing us of true eldership.
This conversation is a massive expansion on what it means to be a devoted partner, parent, and human. Grab a coffee, settle in, and let's get into it. Enjoy the episode!

In this episode, we cover:
[00:00:00] The Ripple Effect of Brotherhood: Jacob shares how Preston’s work filtered through the men’s coaching community and impacted his own marriage and business long before they ever met.
[00:03:19] A Vow of Service: Preston discusses the heart condition he faced 20 years ago that completely changed the trajectory of his life and led to his commitment to never gatekeep his wisdom.
[00:08:51] The Four States of Consciousness: Moving from life happening to you, by you, through you, and ultimately, as you—and how to apply this to the chaos of daily family life.
[00:13:50] Conscious Parenting & Containment: How Preston navigates raising four kids, parenting to each child's unique nervous system, and the power of separating a child from the environment without isolating them from your love.
[00:23:28] True Wealth: Why the ultimate inheritance you leave your children isn't in a bank account, but in how they witness you loving your partner and treating the world.
[00:33:18] The Delusion of Marriage & "Outlawed Parts": Grieving the rom-com fantasy of relationships, burning down the first iteration of a marriage, and how we attract partners who mirror the parts of ourselves we’ve suppressed.
[00:50:38] Honoring the Feminine: Preston’s deep reverence for the biological realities women endure (from menstruation to perimenopause) and the importance of men building the capacity to hold the "weather" of the feminine.
[00:55:56] The Fear of Aging & Lack of Eldership: A candid conversation on society's obsession with freezing women in time, the denial of the life cycle, and what we lose when we stop valuing the aging process.
[01:03:59] Energetics of Intimacy: The profound difference between extracting pleasure and deepening connection in the bedroom, and how intention changes everything.
[01:11:16] Connect with Preston: Where to find Preston online and learn more about The Bridge Experience.

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Learn more about Preston's work: thebridge.org

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