In this episode, we get to talk about what it means to try the "butt stuff" or anal play or anal sex.
Foreplay, Masturbation, Penetration, Oh my!
Consider the following things:
Just like your genitals, learn what feels good, what works for you, and use lubricant.
Start slowly! Communicate with your partner!
I mentioned lubricants (we have no affiliation setup with these companies!): Yes! Yes! Yes!
The partner who is being penetrated MUST be in control! Saying STOP is OK! You have to set ground rules for this experience!
Here's some tips:
No need for waxing, enemas, or pre-maintenance.
Porn isn't real! It's a performance and not sex you would normally have with your partner!
Small toys are great to start with!
Breath!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review us on iTunes.

In this episode, we get to talk about what it means to try the "butt stuff" or anal play or anal sex. Foreplay, Masturbation, Penetration, Oh my! Consider the following things: Just like your genitals, learn what feels good, what works for you, and use lubricant. Start slowly! Communicate with your partner! I mentioned lubricants (we have no affiliation setup with these companies!): Yes! Yes! Yes! The partner who is being penetrated MUST be in control! Saying STOP is OK! You have to set ground rules for this experience! Here's some tips: No need for waxing, enemas, or pre-maintenance. Porn isn't real! It's a performance and not sex you would normally have with your partner! Small toys are great to start with! Breath! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review us on iTunes.

Sex! the Podcast : Episode 4 : Butt Stuff 101

I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it. We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want. We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all — Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed. Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t. What porn women actually watch. And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t porn. This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen. I do.

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I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop. This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it.We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology. Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want.We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors. So we’re going to talk about it all —Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed.Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t.What porn women actually watch.And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told. This isn’t therapy.This isn’t porn.This is The Soft Science Show. And yes — you can stim while you listen.I do.

I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it. We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want. We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all — Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed. Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t. What porn women actually watch. And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t porn. This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen. I do.

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