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Sexy Chocolate: Men Validation
On this vulnerable episode, we explore how validation, especially from cis men, can feel like proof of existence in a world shaped by the male gaze.
Through personal reflection and cultural insight, we unpack the line between self-expression and performance, the pull of external validation, and what it means to feel seen but not truly known. This is a conversation about unlearning, reclaiming self-worth, and redefining desire on your own terms.
Episode References:
Mbowe, Khadija. “The Feminine Urge to Internalize the Male Gaze, Unpacking Desirability 🥴.” YouTube, 13 Nov. 2022, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVXxzqBvAx8
Mulvey, L. (1975). Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema. Screen, 16(3), 6–18. – Foundational essay introducing the concept of the male gaze.
Otago. (n.d.). Depiction of women in advertisements. Otago Shorthand Stories. Retrieved from https://otago.shorthandstories.com/gend305-depiction-of-women-in-ads/index.html
Zipdo. (n.d.). Sex in advertising statistics. Retrieved from https://zipdo.co/sex-in-advertising-statistics/
Lancers Point. (2022, April 5). The objectification of women in film and its impact on society. Retrieved from https://lancerspoint.sjvhs.com/pop-culture/2022/04/05/the-objectification-of-women-in-film-and-its-impact-on-society/
Fast at UCLA. (n.d.). Sex fuels fashion: Destabilizing the male gaze. Retrieved from https://www.fastatucla.com/fast-at-ucla/sex-fuels-fashion-destabilizing-the-male-gaze-by-shattering-the-glass-runway
Pew Research Center. (2022). LGBTQ adults and attraction patterns in the U.S. Retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/
YouGov. (n.d.). Young Americans and sexual attraction beyond cisgender women. Retrieved from https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/
The Trevor Project. (n.d.). Nonbinary and gender nonconforming youth experiences. Retrieved from https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
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By Isaac HerronOn this vulnerable episode, we explore how validation, especially from cis men, can feel like proof of existence in a world shaped by the male gaze.
Through personal reflection and cultural insight, we unpack the line between self-expression and performance, the pull of external validation, and what it means to feel seen but not truly known. This is a conversation about unlearning, reclaiming self-worth, and redefining desire on your own terms.
Episode References:
Mbowe, Khadija. “The Feminine Urge to Internalize the Male Gaze, Unpacking Desirability 🥴.” YouTube, 13 Nov. 2022, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVXxzqBvAx8
Mulvey, L. (1975). Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema. Screen, 16(3), 6–18. – Foundational essay introducing the concept of the male gaze.
Otago. (n.d.). Depiction of women in advertisements. Otago Shorthand Stories. Retrieved from https://otago.shorthandstories.com/gend305-depiction-of-women-in-ads/index.html
Zipdo. (n.d.). Sex in advertising statistics. Retrieved from https://zipdo.co/sex-in-advertising-statistics/
Lancers Point. (2022, April 5). The objectification of women in film and its impact on society. Retrieved from https://lancerspoint.sjvhs.com/pop-culture/2022/04/05/the-objectification-of-women-in-film-and-its-impact-on-society/
Fast at UCLA. (n.d.). Sex fuels fashion: Destabilizing the male gaze. Retrieved from https://www.fastatucla.com/fast-at-ucla/sex-fuels-fashion-destabilizing-the-male-gaze-by-shattering-the-glass-runway
Pew Research Center. (2022). LGBTQ adults and attraction patterns in the U.S. Retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/
YouGov. (n.d.). Young Americans and sexual attraction beyond cisgender women. Retrieved from https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/
The Trevor Project. (n.d.). Nonbinary and gender nonconforming youth experiences. Retrieved from https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
Join Patreon. Join the Chocolate Club.
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Want to stay connected with Chocolate: The Podcast?
Follow us on Instagram: @chocolatethepodcast