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”Shame is a Weapon” | 4 ways SHAME is part of CBT
These heavy words landed like bricks in my lap from a heavy set woman who played no word games at all. This is how she taught me that bargaining with my ego, you with yours, makes overcoming the addiction in life easy.
At first, I thought, that’s ridiculous because the fragile ego hates contention and craves stroking whereby antagonizing it make everything way worse. Egos are easily bruised weeping fruits from the boughs of sad trees. Shame is the menacing pre-teen wrestling and wrangling the jaded trunk for shits’ sake.
But I was wrong and her girthy words hit home. It’s all about CBT.
In CBT, we try to perceive and identify the triggers for our behaviors and then change the euthanizing behavior before it eats our physical bodies whole, that is, our addictions harm or kill us. The reward, all behaviors end with rewards or punishments, is feeling whole and healthy.
What if instead of feeling great or fooling ourselves into feeling great, we felt like crap. Crappiness is conspicuous, conscious and impossible to escape for long. It’s so identifiable, we do anything, including battling addiction, to not feel like crap and feel ashamed about it.
Shame in CBT for chronic daily addiction:
Feel poorly all the time - consequence
Because you ________ too much
You are stressed, anxious, lonely, angry just for a hot second.
(03:31):
You know, when your ego doesn't like, doesn't like being told what's what?
(07:57):
And let me turn this around for you guys. Now, addiction can be closely linked to our egos,
(12:43):
And this is what the immediate reaction to her. When she told me this was like, no, you have to protect people's ego and then work from there. But the truth is we have to expose that about ourselves.
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By Johann Francis, CSCSThese heavy words landed like bricks in my lap from a heavy set woman who played no word games at all. This is how she taught me that bargaining with my ego, you with yours, makes overcoming the addiction in life easy.
At first, I thought, that’s ridiculous because the fragile ego hates contention and craves stroking whereby antagonizing it make everything way worse. Egos are easily bruised weeping fruits from the boughs of sad trees. Shame is the menacing pre-teen wrestling and wrangling the jaded trunk for shits’ sake.
But I was wrong and her girthy words hit home. It’s all about CBT.
In CBT, we try to perceive and identify the triggers for our behaviors and then change the euthanizing behavior before it eats our physical bodies whole, that is, our addictions harm or kill us. The reward, all behaviors end with rewards or punishments, is feeling whole and healthy.
What if instead of feeling great or fooling ourselves into feeling great, we felt like crap. Crappiness is conspicuous, conscious and impossible to escape for long. It’s so identifiable, we do anything, including battling addiction, to not feel like crap and feel ashamed about it.
Shame in CBT for chronic daily addiction:
Feel poorly all the time - consequence
Because you ________ too much
You are stressed, anxious, lonely, angry just for a hot second.
(03:31):
You know, when your ego doesn't like, doesn't like being told what's what?
(07:57):
And let me turn this around for you guys. Now, addiction can be closely linked to our egos,
(12:43):
And this is what the immediate reaction to her. When she told me this was like, no, you have to protect people's ego and then work from there. But the truth is we have to expose that about ourselves.
Hit me up
FIGHTER CONDITIONING | Join us!
LIVE WEEKLY Year-Round Fight-style Training:
Starts this Summer
https://coachjohanncscs.com/fighter
YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/c/johannunderdogtraining
Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/johannunderdogtrains
LinkedIn
https://linkedin.com/in/johann-francis-cscs