Kirby adds nuance to the modern boundaries conversation, referencing how even Henry Cloud has noted that many people quote “boundaries” without reading the whole message. Healthy boundaries aren’t about avoidance or self-service, rather they should help you show up sustainably and love well.

Key talking points

• Boundaries are good but they can be misunderstood when taken out of context

• Healthy boundaries don’t remove responsibility

• The goal isn’t martyrdom or self-protection at all costs

• The healthiest place is usually the middle:

  • Between self-service and self-sacrifice

• Wisdom + love should shape how we build boundaries

Sharpen Question of the Day

• Is your boundary helping you love better or just live easier?