BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott conclude their two-part teaching on anger by clarifying how anger reveals what’s happening in the heart. In this second episode, they move from unhealthy expressions of anger (smoldering and explosive) into a biblical understanding of righteous anger, showing how anger can either protect one's self or serve restoration. The conversation challenges listeners to discern motive, submit reactions to the Holy Spirit, and practice repentance that leads toward maturity, forgiveness, and reconciliation. This episode brings both teachings together, offering a clear pathway for handling anger in a way that reflects the heart of our Heavenly Father. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode two.*

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(00:00) From Smoldering to Explosive Anger

The episode wraps up smoldering anger (quiet resentment, avoidance, passive control) and transitions into explosive anger—how outbursts, escalation, and intimidation often reveal unprocessed offense and unmet desires.

(21:28) Righteous Anger

The focus shifts to righteous anger—how anger can be a Spirit-led response when it protects what is good, confronts what harms, and refuses to let injustice or distortion stand, without becoming self-righteous or cruel.

(33:42) Application: Checking Our Anger

This section closes the righteous anger teaching with application questions that help expose motives. The aim is discernment: is anger rooted in love and restoration, or in ego, control, fear, and self-protection?

(50:20) Activation Steps (for episodes 1 & 2)

This episode closes by combining the activation questions from both parts—identifying your anger pattern, inviting the Holy Spirit to search your heart, repenting where needed, and taking practical steps toward repair.

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• Episode Notes

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb158/

• STB157 | BSE | Conflict: Anger E1

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• Bookshelf | UnLove

https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove

• The Habit Tree

https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/

• The Freedom Booklet

https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/

• Lacey's Story with Anger

https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-laceys-story/

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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott begin a two-part conversation on conflict by reframing anger through the lens of Scripture. Rather than suppressing anger or labeling it as a sin, this episode examines indignation as a morally neutral response that reveals our motives and how we respond to offense. Together, they unpack how unresolved anger creates space for the enemy, how misapplied Bible verses fuel control instead of maturity, and why learning to process anger rightly is essential for healthy relationships, leadership, and spiritual growth. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*

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(00:00) Irreverent Humor and Honest Humanity
The episode opens with unscripted humor and cultural banter, setting a relational tone that contrasts with the weight of the topic ahead. This opening reminds listeners that conflict and anger are discussed best within real, human connection.
(15:41) Be Angry, But Do Not Sin
The teaching begins by examining Ephesians 4.26–27. Anger is defined as neutral, while sin is determined by how it’s expressed or stewarded. Misusing this passage to force resolution is challenged in favor of heart-level responsibility.
(39:26) Indignation, Control, and the Heart
The conversation turns to indignation as a shared biblical word used of both Jesus and his opponents. The distinction isn’t necessarily the behavior, but rather, the underlying motivation — a righteous response versus self-righteousness or unrighteousness.
(46:46) Smoldering Anger vs Explosive Anger
The conversation turns to two unhealthy, unrighteous, and self-righteous expressions of anger. Smoldering anger hides beneath passivity and avoidance, while explosive anger surfaces through outbursts and control. Both avoid honest processing and set the stage for deeper conflict if left unresolved.

— EPISODE LINKS —
• Episode Notes
https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb157/
• Bookshelf | UnLove
https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#unlove
• The Habit Tree
https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/
• The Freedom Booklet
https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/
• Lacey's Story with Anger
https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-laceys-story/
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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott wrap up the Identity series by focusing on participation, clarifying how redemption invites us into active cooperation with what the Holy Spirit is rebuilding. After an opening conversation on humor, reverence, and knowing your audience, the study begins by confronting the idea that participation equals performance. Instead, obedience is framed as a response to grace, not an attempt to earn it. Drawing from Isaiah 61, this episode shows how true participation requires submission, stretches comfort, and forms maturity as we join God in His ongoing work of restoration.

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(00:00) Irreverent Humor, Reverence, and Knowing Your Audience

Before the study begins, the conversation wrestles with “irreverence”: being accused of it, pulling back in group threads, and sorting out when humor is healthy (and when it can unnecessarily offend).

(15:48) Participation Is Not Performance

The study begins by reframing participation in God’s work. Obedience is not earning, striving, or religious effort—it’s responding to what the Spirit is already rebuilding through redemption.

(41:45) Rebuilding Requires Submission

Using Isaiah 61, the discussion clarifies that restoration involves cooperation. Participation often stretches comfort, challenges control, and reveals where surrender—not self-direction—produces maturity.

(1:13:20) Activation Steps

This episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit where participation has been confused with performance and where submission is needed to join what God is actively rebuilding.

— EPISODE LINKS —

• Episode Notes

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb156/

• Podcast Playlist | Galatians Series

https://cultivaterelationships.com/galatians/

• Bookshelf | Identity Booklet

https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#identity

• STB107 | Grieving the Loss of a Child + Sarah P1

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb107/

• Podcast Playlist | Forgiveness

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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Scott continue the Identity series by focusing on redemption, not as behavior management, but as restoration to God’s original design. They explore how redemption is not merely forgiveness of sin, but a reclaiming of purpose, desire, and identity—freeing us to live as God intended from the beginning. This episode challenges reductionistic views of redemption and invites listeners into Spirit-empowered transformation that reshapes how we think, live, and relate.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —
(00:00) Redeemed to God’s Design
The conversation opens by reframing redemption as being restored to how God originally designed humanity—good, relational, and empowered—rather than merely being rescued from wrongdoing.
(18:07) Desire, Design, and Distortion
Attention turns to how desires themselves are not sinful, but become distorted when disconnected from God’s design, shaping unhealthy habits, beliefs, and identity.
(35:48) Transformation Beyond Behavior
This section explores how true transformation goes deeper than behavior modification, addressing thought patterns, motivations, and identity through ongoing submission to the Spirit.
(59:29) Activation Steps
This episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where redemption has been reduced to rule-following and to embrace restoration into God’s original design.

— EPISODE LINKS —
• Episode Notes
https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb155/
• Bookshelf | Salvation Booklet
https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/#salvation
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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Scott step into the next part of the Identity series by examining corruption — not as a loss of identity, but as the breaking of our perception of it. Through Scripture, design analogies, and honest stories, they reveal how false beliefs, unhealthy habits, and misplaced desires slowly shape us away from God’s intention. This episode invites listeners to explore how the Spirit restores clarity, exposes unhealthy patterns, and rebuilds us through truth, community, and surrender.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —

(00:00) Identity, Design, and Why Corruption Matters

Opening reflections highlight how salvation and identity overlap. The conversation explores why understanding our broken patterns is essential to restoration.

(17:34) Facing the Rubble

This section digs into the “building rubble” analogy — showing how we must examine the mess, not ignore it, so God can rebuild what’s been fractured through false views of design.

(39:11) Healthy vs. Unhealthy Patterns

Examples from sexuality, food, and legalism reveal how desire itself isn’t sinful — but how we pursue fulfillment can distort or align us with God’s design.

(1:08:56) Activation Steps

This episode closes with practical guidance for inviting the Holy Spirit to expose corruption, clarify truth, and lead us into restored identity through community and surrender.

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• Episode Notes

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb154/

• Bookshelf

https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/

• Bible Project | 1 Timothy (Modesty - Begins at 3:01)

https://youtu.be/7RoqnGcEjcs?si=lSopJip8BTIp4WB2&t=181

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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott Frerking launch a new identity series by challenging the lie that people are “broken” at their core. Using Scripture and real-life stories, they explain how our identity as God’s image-bearers is intrinsic and irreplaceable, even when our lives feel messy. This episode reframes “blessing” as an opportunity to prosper, unpacks our mission to bring order to chaos, and invites listeners to see themselves the way the Father already does.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —

(00:00) Perception, Value, and Identity

The conversation moves from lighthearted banter into a story about “laundered” vacation money, illustrating how our identity retains value even when life, sin, and pain make everything feel ruined.

(16:35) Made in God’s Image and Likeness

Attention turns to Genesis 1, 5, and 9, showing that humanity remains God’s image-bearers before and after the fall and the flood. Our mission to multiply, steward, and bring order has never been revoked.

(37:51) Intrinsic Worth vs. Broken Narratives

The focus shifts to how religious language, like “less of me, more of Him”, can distort identity when misapplied. Nathan and Scott contrast those clichés with Jesus calling us light, salt, and a city on a hill.

(55:22) Activation Steps

This episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit where your view of yourself has been devalued, to agree with God’s declaration of your worth, and to step into your calling to bring order to chaos.

— EPISODE LINKS —

• Episode Notes

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb153/

• The Identity Guide

https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-identity-guide/

• The Freedom Booklet

https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/

• More Content & Resources at Our Website

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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott explore salvation through the lens of submission, revealing that true freedom comes not from self-rule but from willingly aligning ourselves under God’s design. They unpack how salvation leads us into a life of surrendered trust — choosing the Spirit’s authority over the impulses of our habitual inclinations. Submission is not passivity; it’s the doorway into Spirit-empowered living, where obedience produces maturity, purpose, and the fruit of God’s life within us.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —

(00:00) Living by the Spirit

The episode opens by reframing salvation as a call to surrender — choosing the Spirit’s leadership over self-direction so that our lives reflect God’s design rather than our impulses.

(17:03) The Tension of Flesh and Spirit

The focus turns to Paul’s contrast between flesh and Spirit, showing that the battle is ultimately about submission: whichever authority we yield to shapes our character, choices, and destiny.

(34:46) The Purpose of Freedom

This section highlights that freedom isn’t autonomy — it’s empowerment to submit to God’s design for human love, service, and holiness. True freedom expresses itself through Spirit-led obedience that benefits others.

(1:04:20) Activation Steps

This episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to expose areas of resistance, surrender those places to His leadership, and step into the peace and power that come from daily submission.

— EPISODE LINKS —

• Episode Notes

https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb152/

• Study Booklets

https://cultivaterelationships.com/bookshelf/

• A Tale of Three Kings, by Gene Edwards

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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott continue their series on salvation, revealing that Jesus’ redemption isn’t just about being set free from sin but being set free to live empowered by the Holy Spirit. They uncover how salvation restores humanity to its original design — living in partnership with God’s purpose and authority. They show that redemption is not a single moment of escape but an ongoing journey of transformation, where believers learn to walk in true freedom, maturity, and Spirit-led life.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —
(00:00) Understanding Sin and Rebellion
Nathan and Scott revisit Genesis and Romans to redefine sin as rebellion against design, not inherited corruption, and explore how the gospel restores divine purpose.
(18:01) The Nature of Redemption
They discuss how salvation reconciles creation, humanity, and God’s authority, shifting our view from legal transaction to relational restoration.
(36:55) Growing into Maturity
This section explores sanctification as an ongoing process — how believers are transformed by the Spirit into the likeness of Jesus through daily surrender.
(1:08:22) Activation Steps
This episode closes with an invitation to let the Holy Spirit reveal where rebellion has distorted identity and to embrace the continual renewal found in walking with Him.

— EPISODE LINKS —
• Episode Notes
https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb151
• Podcast Playlist | Romans
https://cultivaterelationships.com/romans
• The Freedom Booklet
https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-freedom-booklet/
• The Habit Tree
https://cultivaterelationships.com/the-habit-tree-worksheet/
• More Content & Resources at Our Website
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BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott explore what salvation truly means, challenging traditional views of “the fall” and redefining it as humanity’s ongoing rebellion against God’s design. They unpack Luke 15 to show that every lost thing — a sheep, a coin, or a son — first belonged to its owner, revealing that redemption isn’t about earning God’s favor but returning to His heart. Together, they confront distorted teachings about salvation and highlight how reconciliation, repentance, and relationship with the Father are central to the gospel’s story.

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —
(00:00) Rethinking “The Fall”
The conversation begins by reframing Genesis 3 as the “Garden Rebellion,” exploring how humanity’s separation was relational, not spatial, and how God’s voice never left creation.
(14:36) The Lost and the Found
Through Luke 15, the parables of the lost sheep, coin, and son reveal that all began in belonging — the Father’s pursuit of those who are lost reveals His unending desire for reconciliation.
(33:43) The Father’s Love and Our Response
They examine the Luke 15 story, contrasting rebellion and unrighteousness with religion and self-righteousness while emphasizing the Father’s compassion toward both lost sons.
(59:52) Activation Steps
This episode closes with an invitation to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where we’ve resisted relationship with the Father and to return — fully restored and reconciled to Him.

— EPISODE LINKS —
• Episode Notes
https://cultivaterelationships.com/shoot-the-breeze/stb150
• Podcast Playlist | Romans
https://cultivaterelationships.com/romans
• Podcast Playlist | Galatians
https://cultivaterelationships.com/romans
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