Tony tackles the question he receives the most from listeners, should I stay or should I go? And if I decide to go, when? Plus he discusses what the training of ordinary mice to go through mazes can tell us about ourselves from Vanessa Van Edwards's article "Expectancy Effect: Improve Performance With This Human Behavior Quirk," from https://www.scienceofpeople.com/expectancy-effect/ 

Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop to sign up for Tony’s “Magnetize Your Marriage” virtual workshop. The cost is only $19. You’ll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. 

With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do not think you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch, you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.

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Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ

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[00:00:07] Hey, welcome to episode 31 of waking up the Narcissism. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch podcast. And just very quickly, quick item of business. I've been talking about this marriage workshop that I recorded a few weeks ago, and now you can go to Tony over Baker slash workshop. And I really do lay out what the tools are to try and have a connected conversation, what it means to be differentiated, what it looks like to be two autonomous, interdependent people in a relationship, and how that relationship could actually thrive. And I say this on this podcast, on the virtual couch, I'm talking about marriage therapy, I'm talking about all things mental health. But on this one, I again, I want you to know that there's a part of me that says, all right, am I is that wrong of me to say, hey, here's a marriage workshop? Because there's a potential that in a narcissistic relationship, your spouse will then use that against you? Well, you're not doing any of these things. But my point, this is absolutely not anything that you need to watch or take or do with your spouse, which sounds so crazy as a marriage therapist. But I really feel like the purpose of this workshop that I put on was to let people even know what a healthy relationship looks like from somebody that's worked with well over 1000 couples over the last 17, 18 years.

[00:01:19] So that is me stepping into my healthy ego and saying that I understand we don't have the tools in a relationship when we get in a relationship simply because we don't. Those aren't the tools that come from the factory. So when I sometimes talk about the destination and the destination is, can you imagine yourself in this healthy relationship where you're two autonomous people with your own hopes and dreams and desires, and you go through life looking at everything with curiosity and you're able to stand in your own calm, confident energy. I know that I feel like somebody saying, Where's the unicorn? Where's the pot of gold? And I understand that I just put this workshop on. It's about an hour to 90 minutes so that people will just have an idea,...