If you don't show up for others in the way they want you to show up, they're going to think you're selfish. 

But maybe you're just being selful. 

You eat for yourself, you sleep for yourself, your life is about you. When you are doing you for you, the whole world benefits. 

So what about the person that wants to have their personal freedom? The person that feels trapped by their own life. How do they find it? 

It may be more a matter of changing your mind than changing your circumstances. 

The person that wants to find freedom should look inside first.