Life is going to deal you setbacks and cause you pain.  How do you deal with this?

One way is to cast yourself as helpless in the face of others' actions, to be a victim.  This allows you to accept bad events, lower your expectations from life, and feel good about yourself as an underdog.

It also means that your outcomes will not be as good, but you will have a reason to invest less effort.

Is victimism for you?