Showing up Messy When you have high standards for yourself, it can be very difficult to show up imperfectly, and it’s easy to go into self-blame. Unfortunately, this usually comes at a cost. Jen and I talk about how to make the shift from focusing on external expectations (and fear of judgment), to focusing internally on what you want and what you are able to give. We talk about the gifts of self-compassion, vulnerability, deep connection, and focusing on the relationship instead of unrealistic high standards. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truth teller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us  LINKS Jen’s links Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Phone: 215-292-5056 Website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/  Facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting Patricia’s Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise--  https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/  Online HSP Course Materials (no group included)  https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/  Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes:   click on this link  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2  select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review  Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--  https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive  Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

146 Showing Up Messy, With Jen Perry

In this podcast, we explore how sensitivity weaves itself into our lives.  We talk about the richness that it adds, and the strengths we have BECAUSE of our sensitivity and some of the challenges it poses as well. If you are a Creative, a deep thinker, a deep feeler, neurodivergent, autistic, a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), an introvert, or identify as INFJ or ENFJ, you may enjoy the in-depth conversations where we talk openly and honestly about how we experience life. This is a podcast where you can learn, relate, laugh and maybe even live a bolder, brighter life.


Have you been told you’re “too” (fill in the blank)? You’re too sensitive; you think/worry too much; you take things too personally; you’re too emotional, too finicky, too fragile, too intense, too uptight, too slow. Have you been told you can’t take a joke; you can’t go with the flow? You can’t let go of things? Making decisions can be very difficult. You might have an acute sense of smell, and strong odors, crowded noisy environments and bright lights are just too much!

You notice things that no one else does. You have a strong sense of justice and you may be a peace-keeper. Conflict feels uncomfortable. You’re the one that everyone tells their problems to because you’re a good listener who cares deeply.

You’re in the right place!

You may have been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, ADHD or something else.  Sometimes Highly Sensitive People are misdiagnosed. Our brains are wired differently.  We are born with the trait of High Sensitivity.  There’s nothing wrong with you! You will learn that your perceived weaknesses are really are your superpowers! Dr. Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity).

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 Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation     Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.     CO-HOST  Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC     HIGHLIGHTS   Summary   In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy.   Takeaways:    Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques.   Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships.   Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior.   Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas.   Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges.   Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships.   Embracing authenticity and openness in communication.   Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression.   Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion.   Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being.   Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk.   Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics.   Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences.   Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships.   Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception.   Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt.   Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others.   Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles.   Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth.   Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.   Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques.   Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships.   Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior.   Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas.   Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges.   Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships.   Embracing authenticity and openness in communication.   Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression.   Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion.   Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being.   Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk.   Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics.   Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences.   Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships.   Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception.   Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt.   Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others.   Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles.   Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth.   Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.   Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)     00:00 Introduction and Emotional States  09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers  30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy   PODCAST HOST  Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you     CO-HOST BIO   Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.     LINKS     Jen’s Links     Email:  Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com     Jen’s website:  https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/     Patricia’s Links     Neurodivergent Online Course--  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/     Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast--  https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6     Sign up for the Newsletter--  https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4     To write a review in itunes:    click on this link   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2   select “listen on Apple Podcasts”   chose “open in itunes”   choose “ratings and reviews”   click to rate the number of starts   click “write a review”      Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  Facebook--   https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/  Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/  Instagram--  https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/  Youtube--   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber  Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv  e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com   Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive   Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson  www.andyrobinson.com

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 Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation     Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.     CO-HOST  Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC     HIGHLIGHTS  Summary  In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.  Takeaways  ·         Change and disruption can be challenging.  ·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.  ·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.  ·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.  ·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.  ·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.  ·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.  Sound Bites  ·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me"  ·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"  ·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is"  ·         "It's the openheartedness really."  ·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."  Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)  00:00 Introduction and Frustrations  08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility  25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility  34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs  40:39 Managing Expectations   PODCAST HOST  Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you     CO-HOST BIO   Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.     LINKS     Jen’s Links     Email:  Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com     Jen’s website:  https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/     Patricia’s Links     Neurodivergent Online Course--  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/     Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast--  https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6     Sign up for the Newsletter--  https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4     To write a review in itunes:    click on this link   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2   select “listen on Apple Podcasts”   chose “open in itunes”   choose “ratings and reviews”   click to rate the number of starts   click “write a review”      Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  Facebook--   https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/  Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/  Instagram--  https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/  Youtube--   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber  Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv  e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com   Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive   Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson  www.andyrobinson.com

242 Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation

 Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment     Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.     HIGHLIGHTS  Takeaways  ·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.  ·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.  ·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.  ·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.  ·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.   PODCAST HOST  Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you  LINKS     Neurodivergent Online Course--  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/     Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast--  https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6     Sign up for the Newsletter--  https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4     To write a review in itunes:    click on this link   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2   select “listen on Apple Podcasts”   chose “open in itunes”   choose “ratings and reviews”   click to rate the number of starts   click “write a review”      Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  Facebook--   https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/  Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/  Instagram--  https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/  Youtube--   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber  Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv  e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com   Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive   Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson  www.andyrobinson.com  

241 Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work it out in the Moment

 Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment  Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship     CO-HOST  Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC     HIGHLIGHTS  Summary  Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.  Takeaways  ·         Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.  ·         Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.  ·         Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.  ·         Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.  ·         Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.  ·         Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.  ·         Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.  ·         Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.  ·         Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.  ·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.  ·         Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.  ·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.  ·         Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.  Additional topics discussed:    Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences.   Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges.   Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives.   Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing.   Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts.   Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support.   Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life.   The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships.   Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions.   Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences.   Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships.   Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation.   Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations.   Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support.   Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)  00:00 Introduction and Checking In  00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception  07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support  08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries  12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions  14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support  20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability  21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm  22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations  23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations  25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation  26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships  27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking  28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best  29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries  29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy  30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information  32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel  38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life  40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth   PODCAST HOST  Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you     CO-HOST BIO   Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.     LINKS     Jen’s Links     Email:  Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com     Jen’s website:  https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/     Patricia’s Links     Neurodivergent Online Course--  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/     Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast--  https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6     Sign up for the Newsletter--  https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4     To write a review in itunes:    click on this link   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2   select “listen on Apple Podcasts”   chose “open in itunes”   choose “ratings and reviews”   click to rate the number of starts   click “write a review”      Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  Facebook--   https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/  Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/  Instagram--  https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/  Youtube--   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber  Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv  e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com   Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive   Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson  www.andyrobinson.com

240 Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment

 Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined     Summary     Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.     HIGHLIGHTS     Takeaways  The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.  Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.  Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.  Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.  Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)  Points made in this episode:    Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception.   Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much."   Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities.   Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much."   Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships.   Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions.   Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough."   Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities.   Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much."   Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities.   Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals.   Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships.   Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues.   Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem.   Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections.   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic  01:36 The Wound of Too Much  06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy  07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females  10:16 Stimming and Accommodations  11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues  13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much  14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions  18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties  20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight  21:10 Personal Examples and Communication  23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest  24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement   PODCAST HOST  Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you  LINKS     Neurodivergent Online Course--  https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/     Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast--  https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6     Sign up for the Newsletter--  https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4     To write a review in itunes:    click on this link   https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2   select “listen on Apple Podcasts”   chose “open in itunes”   choose “ratings and reviews”   click to rate the number of starts   click “write a review”      Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com  Facebook--   https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/  Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/  Instagram--  https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/  Youtube--   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber  Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv  e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com   Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive   Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson  www.andyrobinson.com  

146 Showing Up Messy, With Jen Perry

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