In this episode of Shalom Project, we explore why self-awareness and values are essential for anyone working in a helping field—especially ministry.

Helping professions invite us to bring our whole selves into the work. At the same time, they place our identity at risk. By identity, we mean the person God designed you to be—your personality, temperament, culture, and unique way of being in the world. Over time, many environments subtly reshape people into what is most socially acceptable, rather than championing growth without assimilation.

We also clarify what we mean by values: the things that give your life meaning, direction, and depth—such as authenticity, kindness, creativity, or faithfulness. When we lack awareness of who we are and what we value, it becomes difficult to be present. When we aren’t present, our decisions are often shaped by external pressures rather than internal conviction.

In demanding environments, one of two things usually happens:

* We slowly conform to the culture around us

* Or we help shape the culture through clarity, presence, and integrity

We name the realities many people encounter in ministry and other helping fields—traditions, expectations, agendas, sacred emotions, and status quos—that can either support wholeness or quietly resist growth.

We also discuss how emotions can serve as important signals:

* Frustration or anger may point to a crossed boundary

* Sadness can indicate misalignment with your values

* Anxiety may reveal a lack of safety or support

* Peace or happiness often signal alignment

* Joy can reflect safety and security, even in hard circumstances

Rather than judging these emotions, we invite you to treat them as information—something to be approached with curiosity.

This episode lays the foundation for what comes next. In the following episode, we’ll explore practices that help you hold onto your values over time, especially in demanding and high-pressure environments.

Reflection Questions

* What do I genuinely enjoy?

* What do I want to be known for?

Resources Mentioned

* ACT Values Worksheet (Russ Harris)

* Finding the Right Hills to Die On – Gavin Ortlund

* Who Pays for Diversity? – Oneya Fennell Okuwobi

* Emotionally Healthy Discipleship – Pete Scazzero

* Non-Anxious Presence – Mark Sayers

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